The Safe House Project 2009 for Displaced & Homeless MSM/Transgender reviewed & more


In response to numerous requests for more information on the defunct Safe House Pilot Project that was to address the growing numbers of displaced and homeless LGBTQ Youth in New Kingston in 2007/8/9, a review of the relevance of the project as a solution, the possible avoidance of present issues with some of its previous residents if it were kept open.
Recorded June 12, 2013; also see from the former Executive Director named in the podcast more background on the project: HERE also see the beginning of the issues from the closure of the project: The Quietus ……… The Safe House Project Closes and The Ultimatum on December 30, 2009

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Cybersex and relationships

At another bloggers' Lyme recently this time done online another sticky topic came up that of cybersex as done by persons involved in so called monogamous relationships. Long term lovers tend to loose their sex drive after a while and resort to other forms of sexual activities to keep the action alive. Many worry about the normalcy in their sex lives when cybersex, sex toy usage and Internet porn takes the place of real person to person contact making the love die in a sense. Homosexual males whether for instant gratification of just addictions tend to use cybersex as a way to satisfy desires quickly.

Fantasies can be acted out online with ones face hidden but of course the all important genitalia is key to attracting partners online for masturbatory sessions and for some twice or three times in one night. Those fantasies may not be ones that are had with the live-in partner and to compensate often time secret cybersex camera action is employed so as not to pressure the live-in partner to bend over backwards to please the other. The at home partner still gets the emotional attention and support necessary to create the illusion or appearance of a monogamist union.

 Does this practice lead to decreases in love life if one or both partners in a relationship are practising?

 Some say yes some say no, as it depends on how it’s done. If one partner for example is on a business trip or is away for a short time that maybe an excuse for cybersex with outsiders not with the at home partner. One blogger at the Lyme says he used to practice cam to cam masturbation with guys even when he was with his partner full time but he knew he loved his partner no matter what, he explained that he never showed his face only from the neck down and chose guys who did the same for one on one cam action. The experts say that one can get addicted to cybersex and tend to loose real emotional and sexual desires for another person on a one on one level because the attraction is just for instant gratification or as some call it a quick nut. Then there is the proverbial hook up dude who uses the internet to meet one night standers for just quick fun and may incorporate cybersex before the actual hook-up takes place or compensate for distance if the meeting cannot be done at that particular time.

 Is that considered cheating?

 Some say yes and some say no, if it’s an open relationship where both partners can go outside the union for sexual pleasures well it couldn’t be considered cheating but if the union is monogamous in nature and one steps out in this format without the others knowledge then emotionally it is cheating. I guess it depends on the grounds and boundaries set by the persons involved in the relationship. Others felt strong that it was in fact cheating and that dishonesty in any form leads to a must fail in the union as time progresses, unions must remain monogamous and lovers must be true to each other no matter what if not its just a casual “spirit tek” mess that’s doomed to fail. There are those who also engage in orgies by allowing a third or fourth partner into a session for sex but emotionally the two original members of the couple know they are tied together and share a bond.

 Cybersex as a safer sex method

 Others in the HIV/AIDS advocacy world do encourage the use of cybersex as a means to safe sex. Many experts encourage its use to avoid risky behaviour and also to examine ones possible partner while on camera to literally look for signs of sexually transmitted infections around ones genitalia and so on before the actual hook-up takes place. Self masturbation was already recommended as a form of safer sex practices but camming has now been added in the digital age of instant video streaming and live chats. How repetitive one employs this form of sexual play is questionable as again I draw on the notion of getting addicted to emotionless sex.

 meanwhile here is a treat:

What’s your take on the issue?

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 Peace and tolerance

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Cybersex is the new era of sex,its growing like a big business and we all are somehow part of it.i know it sounds strange but reading a adult blog itself says that you are part of it

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 Poor performing judges can be dealt with at the Judicial Review Court level or a letter to the Chief Justice can start the process

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