Just as I researched on-line in NOT EVEN five minutes and found a plethora of information and FACTS on Sexual Grooming (and thanks to Dr Karen Carpenter for some valuable insight I found out what Sexual Grooming was) so too must these fanatics go and do the same and stop creating panic in the country.
The hysteria continues from the Professor Bain so called protests to protect freedom of speech and bites at the credibility of the LGBT lobby collectively continues via Duppies Dupe UWI articles when the bigger principle of the conflict of interest in regards to the greater imperative of removing/preserving archaic buggery laws in the Caribbean dependent on which side one sits is of greater import when the professor’s court testimony in Belize went against the imperative of CHART/PANCAP goals is the more germane matter of which he was former head now temporarily reinstated via a court ex-parte injunction. The unnecessary uproar and shouting from the same hysterical uninformed quarters claiming moral concerns or the protection of the public good has only sought to divide the nation on this question of homosexuality that we were slowly getting to a conversation on although not to be blameless are sections of the LGBT lobby itself and allies as they have helped to smash the credibility and reputation indeed gains though incremental made over the past twenty years at least since my own involvement and tackling my own buggery charged in court with a sine die adjournment. The deliberate castigation of traditional churches as well in this debate is a deliberate form of mischief making to gain traction.
Also sadly Ian Boyne whose more balanced thesis on homosexuality and such seems skewed and pushing the fiery fury as he calls it in his piece in the Gleaner as well:
Grooming is about what predators do, they set someone up who is incapable of consent or is under some psychological control developed over time under the guise of trust towards a sexual act (usually under some duress) in the future. Grooming will require that you pair particular sexual information contact, touch and speech even companionship with a reward masked in pleasantry or kindness to the intended victim. I doubt very much persons delivering this sex education curriculum were winking of fondling or having extended unmonitored private periods with the wards for there to have developed such a relationship or interpersonal contact towards actual sexual grooming seeing that the wards were guarded and ushered by the respective homes’ managers and staff as intermediaries. Basically there is no “grooming” going on when one is engaged in sexual reproductive health; grooming is a far more interpersonal intimate process without witnesses towards abuse.
What passes for sexual education for the most part turns out to be animal husbandry in a sense as it is limited to sexual acts and puberty issues (public hair growth, wet dreams, menstrual cycle info and the act of sex leading to pregnancy) we have not been taught for generations sexuality, emotions, the sex response, cycle, intimacy, romance or even sex in the context of relationships so when we feel the real emotions we are taken by surprise, when a girl of nine for example is touched she may respond physiologically when she is touched at aged 9, 10 or 11 they are going to physiologically respond that we must accept it is in the sensitization of our children that certain touch is NOT love and cannot be interpreted as such, if they are never told about the difference then they cannot make the distinction. Hence the present impasse of early initiation, teenage pregnancy experimentation and mistaken “Love” that persons think they are in. There is a difference between sexual stimulation versus love, valuing one’s body and if one is to share one’s body with someone else then that person must also be of equal value as best as possible to make it work and not just for pleasures sake; they too must reciprocate some or all of the values similar in nature.
Research has shown repeatedly that young people who are informed about sex and their bodies and even basic sexuality delay sexual activity longer. Furthermore the clash between peer education via friends versus information sought from parents or adults can cause problems if cautious or scared adults refuse to talk about the then hence our present dilemma fear, paranoia, fear-mongering and hysteria cradled in sheer ignorance even from so called Christian counsellors and psychologists whose scholarships are based on a sanitised world view of discussing sexuality. If we do not share with our children the realities out there even in strong graphic terms where needed then our children are going to shut down hence taught by other sometimes more enticing avenues (music or so) hence the coaster bus sex phenomenon or sex houses during school hours with unscrupulous characters and so on.
The most recent data of adolescents in Jamaica in terms of 13 to 17 year olds 58.4% of that cohort say they are already having sex from an early age i. e. Out of 10, 5 of them are active from early, with multiple partners or more than two partners in one year. Seven out of every ten students aged 17 are already sexually active at a rate of 73% so we better stop fooling ourselves if we think sanitising and deceptively misrepresenting terminologies to preserve some imagined public good somewhere is going to solve the present issues. The reproductive health five year studies over time seek to find among other things experimentation with masturbation where on each survey the figures are increasing albeit populations increase but the jump also occurs none the less. Teens are already practising some sort of anal sex via sex toy or object usage (cucumbers or so) as one psychologist in her private practice Dr Sandra Knight linked to the National Family Planning Board suggested she has been seeing increased cases of such non vaginal sexual acts as done by teens in a recent radio discussion. She mentioned the coercion by girls of boys into sex has increased; the “rape” of boys by older girls especially has increased respectful as respectful interactions as it relates to coercion of sexuality are not taught in guidance counselling sessions in high schools, stable relationships are on the decline, wife swapping or swinging and transactional sex is almost normative in some school populations that were surveyed in the last go round.
Alarmist?
Well yes but with a view to wake some people up to the realities out there want more? single professional women IN JAMAICA wanting to have sperm donor arrangements without the fathers getting involved in raising the child is also on the increase as issues of relational mistrust and independence also have an impact on the traditional family unit whilst at the same time rejecting LGBTQ family life with some stability therein versus promiscuity that is used more so to demonise and justify shifting of the recognition of alternative family units by antigay voices.
I hope this helps somewhere is clearing the air on grooming and debunking the deception carried out in the name of morals by some fanatics.
preview the actual JFJ sex ed material HERE (the instructor's version) which may not be presented in its entirety to the respected audiences as it most materials similar in nature.
The hysteria continues from the Professor Bain so called protests to protect freedom of speech and bites at the credibility of the LGBT lobby collectively continues via Duppies Dupe UWI articles when the bigger principle of the conflict of interest in regards to the greater imperative of removing/preserving archaic buggery laws in the Caribbean dependent on which side one sits is of greater import when the professor’s court testimony in Belize went against the imperative of CHART/PANCAP goals is the more germane matter of which he was former head now temporarily reinstated via a court ex-parte injunction. The unnecessary uproar and shouting from the same hysterical uninformed quarters claiming moral concerns or the protection of the public good has only sought to divide the nation on this question of homosexuality that we were slowly getting to a conversation on although not to be blameless are sections of the LGBT lobby itself and allies as they have helped to smash the credibility and reputation indeed gains though incremental made over the past twenty years at least since my own involvement and tackling my own buggery charged in court with a sine die adjournment. The deliberate castigation of traditional churches as well in this debate is a deliberate form of mischief making to gain traction.
The latest the join the misuse bandwagon is a sociologist Dr Orville Taylor note a SOCIOLOGIST! who should know better than to not check the term prior to its use, here is his article in yesterday's Gleaner in part:
"One cannot say that JFJ is the front for any group, but as the debonair member of parliament, Raymond Pryce, one of the brightest sparks in Gordon House, declared almost a year ago, non-governmental organisations (NGOs) such as JFJ can "... receive funds in a subversive way that has hidden agendas, and ... those sources of funds come from agencies that are inimical to the way of life of the wider society." Thus, one cannot blame the Freudian slip of my caller on Wednesday as he called it 'JF-gay'.
Fair activism is one thing; sexual grooming and the contribution to the delinquency of minors is another. True, the cues have been given by the prime minister in her 2011 campaign promises, and a June 2013 statement by de facto communication minister Sandrea Falconer about the review of the anti-buggery legislation that, "... it is a matter that will come up in Parliament in short order ...". Indeed, the lobby might have been encouraged by recent comments by Hanna herself."
Fair activism is one thing; sexual grooming and the contribution to the delinquency of minors is another. True, the cues have been given by the prime minister in her 2011 campaign promises, and a June 2013 statement by de facto communication minister Sandrea Falconer about the review of the anti-buggery legislation that, "... it is a matter that will come up in Parliament in short order ...". Indeed, the lobby might have been encouraged by recent comments by Hanna herself."
Also sadly Ian Boyne whose more balanced thesis on homosexuality and such seems skewed and pushing the fiery fury as he calls it in his piece in the Gleaner as well:
"INVOKING FIERY FURY
The JFJ sex material gives credence to what many say is a conspiracy to corrupt our children. The Family Planning Association has distanced itself from that section of the curriculum which teaches that "vaginal sex, anal sex and oral sex are forms of sexual penetration", as well as the part that says, "Anal and oral sex have traditionally been frowned upon but with time these practices are becoming more accepted." So the course advises the "use of a condom and lubricant during anal sex" to protect against HIV. This is what was meant to be taught to 12-year-olds! You can imagine the fire and brimstone fury of Jamaicans! ........."
The JFJ sex material gives credence to what many say is a conspiracy to corrupt our children. The Family Planning Association has distanced itself from that section of the curriculum which teaches that "vaginal sex, anal sex and oral sex are forms of sexual penetration", as well as the part that says, "Anal and oral sex have traditionally been frowned upon but with time these practices are becoming more accepted." So the course advises the "use of a condom and lubricant during anal sex" to protect against HIV. This is what was meant to be taught to 12-year-olds! You can imagine the fire and brimstone fury of Jamaicans! ........."
Sadly the deception has been aided in the quote above from Boyne when in FACT the intended audience was 13 to 18 year olds NOT 12 as he puts it.
It seems that accusations being levied at the LGBT lobby collectively that we are sneaking in homosexuality through the back door (when it has always been here, I don’t see how one can sneak in something that is already present) said accusations of deception can be easily thrown back at the religious majority opposition as they too have sought to deliberately misrepresent terms, reinterpreting facts to support their own conclusions and misuse of studies/data for ulterior means chief among them is the HIV is a gay disease ploy to supposedly keep archaic laws as buggery is the main reason why such infections spread when we know it is much more than just mere anal sex but mindset, non practice of safer sex methodologies and other myths and practices by poorly informed persons with little condom skills for example.
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During the HFLE fiasco that occurred in 2012 the ministry of education via the reverend gentleman as its head also misused the term sexual grooming while suggesting it was “conditioning” students to homosexuality to also justify his reasons for withdrawing a well needed manual for teens that looks at sexuality comprehensively; he also got support from some of these same fanatics namely Shirley Richards however just because it postured anal sex, alternate families and homosexuality the hysteria set in instead of rational review and decision making, we can conclude history repeating itself.
What the religious groups and their spokespersons such as Dr Wayne West have also attempted to do but has been thwarted in a sense especially by me is to lump other Euro-centric sub group anal sex practices as if they are also done in African-descented populations so as to create more alarm/shock value hysteria playing on the outrage as it were of ignorant persons whose active wild imaginations go into effect about anal sex and what they think happens; sadly they are aided and abetted by sensational concocted male rape stories in newspapers that recently suggesting the victim was bleeding profusely after the act when no such report has been filed by the persons involved including the women who allegedly found the man and serious questions have been raised by persons residing in the area who also jog as to the veracity of the story. Terms such as fisting, felching, scat and chariot racing have been used by the aforementioned Dr West especially on his blog and since he has exhausted all those and his scheme has been spotted he now resorts to name calling even while complaining of being called names such as homophobic when himself and his support are exactly that.
The changing of the term is deliberate.
Now we see the latest deceptive and misrepresentation attempt to justify their opposition to supposed homosexual imperialist imposition by re-interpreting and misusing terms associated with child psychology and sexual assault analysis by the related experts that of Sexual Grooming, since the unfortunate bypassing of the Child Development Agency, CDA and the Ministry of Youth by the Jamaicans for Justice, JFJ via the Caribbean Vulnerable Communities Coalition, CVCC funded sex education pilot project which was a horrible mistake as JFJ in essence back tracked on their own publicly advocated principles of transparency in governance and fiduciary responsibility for so many years with the present CVCC Executive Director as its head then the deception of sorts has left both organizations with egg on their faces, I was one of the first persons to express some concern as to the transitioning of Ms Carolyn Gomes to the CVCC as her public reputation is one of being anti-police anti-government and in the wrong place for an educated lighter skin Jamaican as sadly even in today’s Jamaica skin colour still plays a factor in certain spheres.
Sexual Grooming has been glibly used and mistakenly so to suggest as the motive for JFJ with hidden LGBT agencies on their own agenda to push this soon to be completed sex education course which begun in October of 2013, the 147+ paged document dealt with for the most part rights for children in homes, laws that protect them and how to navigate such laws and the Child Development Agency, CDA the same agency that was bypassed which calls for the repeat of the question why leave them out in the first place, was it fear that the project would not have flown if permission was sought and if so why not just say so instead of the public relations nightmare that now lay before us; not to mention a near botched press conference which just shows up the further ignorance by unprofessional “journalists” and stigma that still reside out there. The suggestion sent out there is that by virtue of the sex education manual as described by some (more a human rights document) informing the wards in the privately run children’s homes in a few lines on anal sex as sexual grooming is so deceptive it is not funny and cannot be explained away as a mistake, one should seek to inform themselves prior to using specific terms on such sensitive matters only to create more fear whilst real abusers who these groups claim they want to stop continue to abuse their victims children and adults alike as this latest furore provides more cover for them to do so.
Sexual Grooming and what it actually entails:
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What the religious groups and their spokespersons such as Dr Wayne West have also attempted to do but has been thwarted in a sense especially by me is to lump other Euro-centric sub group anal sex practices as if they are also done in African-descented populations so as to create more alarm/shock value hysteria playing on the outrage as it were of ignorant persons whose active wild imaginations go into effect about anal sex and what they think happens; sadly they are aided and abetted by sensational concocted male rape stories in newspapers that recently suggesting the victim was bleeding profusely after the act when no such report has been filed by the persons involved including the women who allegedly found the man and serious questions have been raised by persons residing in the area who also jog as to the veracity of the story. Terms such as fisting, felching, scat and chariot racing have been used by the aforementioned Dr West especially on his blog and since he has exhausted all those and his scheme has been spotted he now resorts to name calling even while complaining of being called names such as homophobic when himself and his support are exactly that.
The changing of the term is deliberate.
Now we see the latest deceptive and misrepresentation attempt to justify their opposition to supposed homosexual imperialist imposition by re-interpreting and misusing terms associated with child psychology and sexual assault analysis by the related experts that of Sexual Grooming, since the unfortunate bypassing of the Child Development Agency, CDA and the Ministry of Youth by the Jamaicans for Justice, JFJ via the Caribbean Vulnerable Communities Coalition, CVCC funded sex education pilot project which was a horrible mistake as JFJ in essence back tracked on their own publicly advocated principles of transparency in governance and fiduciary responsibility for so many years with the present CVCC Executive Director as its head then the deception of sorts has left both organizations with egg on their faces, I was one of the first persons to express some concern as to the transitioning of Ms Carolyn Gomes to the CVCC as her public reputation is one of being anti-police anti-government and in the wrong place for an educated lighter skin Jamaican as sadly even in today’s Jamaica skin colour still plays a factor in certain spheres.
Sexual Grooming has been glibly used and mistakenly so to suggest as the motive for JFJ with hidden LGBT agencies on their own agenda to push this soon to be completed sex education course which begun in October of 2013, the 147+ paged document dealt with for the most part rights for children in homes, laws that protect them and how to navigate such laws and the Child Development Agency, CDA the same agency that was bypassed which calls for the repeat of the question why leave them out in the first place, was it fear that the project would not have flown if permission was sought and if so why not just say so instead of the public relations nightmare that now lay before us; not to mention a near botched press conference which just shows up the further ignorance by unprofessional “journalists” and stigma that still reside out there. The suggestion sent out there is that by virtue of the sex education manual as described by some (more a human rights document) informing the wards in the privately run children’s homes in a few lines on anal sex as sexual grooming is so deceptive it is not funny and cannot be explained away as a mistake, one should seek to inform themselves prior to using specific terms on such sensitive matters only to create more fear whilst real abusers who these groups claim they want to stop continue to abuse their victims children and adults alike as this latest furore provides more cover for them to do so.
Sexual Grooming and what it actually entails:
What passes for sexual education for the most part turns out to be animal husbandry in a sense as it is limited to sexual acts and puberty issues (public hair growth, wet dreams, menstrual cycle info and the act of sex leading to pregnancy) we have not been taught for generations sexuality, emotions, the sex response, cycle, intimacy, romance or even sex in the context of relationships so when we feel the real emotions we are taken by surprise, when a girl of nine for example is touched she may respond physiologically when she is touched at aged 9, 10 or 11 they are going to physiologically respond that we must accept it is in the sensitization of our children that certain touch is NOT love and cannot be interpreted as such, if they are never told about the difference then they cannot make the distinction. Hence the present impasse of early initiation, teenage pregnancy experimentation and mistaken “Love” that persons think they are in. There is a difference between sexual stimulation versus love, valuing one’s body and if one is to share one’s body with someone else then that person must also be of equal value as best as possible to make it work and not just for pleasures sake; they too must reciprocate some or all of the values similar in nature.
Research has shown repeatedly that young people who are informed about sex and their bodies and even basic sexuality delay sexual activity longer. Furthermore the clash between peer education via friends versus information sought from parents or adults can cause problems if cautious or scared adults refuse to talk about the then hence our present dilemma fear, paranoia, fear-mongering and hysteria cradled in sheer ignorance even from so called Christian counsellors and psychologists whose scholarships are based on a sanitised world view of discussing sexuality. If we do not share with our children the realities out there even in strong graphic terms where needed then our children are going to shut down hence taught by other sometimes more enticing avenues (music or so) hence the coaster bus sex phenomenon or sex houses during school hours with unscrupulous characters and so on.
The most recent data of adolescents in Jamaica in terms of 13 to 17 year olds 58.4% of that cohort say they are already having sex from an early age i. e. Out of 10, 5 of them are active from early, with multiple partners or more than two partners in one year. Seven out of every ten students aged 17 are already sexually active at a rate of 73% so we better stop fooling ourselves if we think sanitising and deceptively misrepresenting terminologies to preserve some imagined public good somewhere is going to solve the present issues. The reproductive health five year studies over time seek to find among other things experimentation with masturbation where on each survey the figures are increasing albeit populations increase but the jump also occurs none the less. Teens are already practising some sort of anal sex via sex toy or object usage (cucumbers or so) as one psychologist in her private practice Dr Sandra Knight linked to the National Family Planning Board suggested she has been seeing increased cases of such non vaginal sexual acts as done by teens in a recent radio discussion. She mentioned the coercion by girls of boys into sex has increased; the “rape” of boys by older girls especially has increased respectful as respectful interactions as it relates to coercion of sexuality are not taught in guidance counselling sessions in high schools, stable relationships are on the decline, wife swapping or swinging and transactional sex is almost normative in some school populations that were surveyed in the last go round.
Alarmist?
Well yes but with a view to wake some people up to the realities out there want more? single professional women IN JAMAICA wanting to have sperm donor arrangements without the fathers getting involved in raising the child is also on the increase as issues of relational mistrust and independence also have an impact on the traditional family unit whilst at the same time rejecting LGBTQ family life with some stability therein versus promiscuity that is used more so to demonise and justify shifting of the recognition of alternative family units by antigay voices.
I hope this helps somewhere is clearing the air on grooming and debunking the deception carried out in the name of morals by some fanatics.
also hear Miss Gomes reason for her departure from JFJ.
For some comic relief from Carolyn Cooper (Patois doctor) see: Gomes no gone noweh (Gomes has not gone anywhere)
Hardened Positions by Religious Fanatics & Their LGBT Detractors Will Only Leave More Blood on the Floor
Anti Gay Voice & 'Child Rights' Advocate Betty-Ann Blaine Taken to Task on Public Advocacy
Why did CVCC & JFJ not Fund a Project/Home for Homeless LGBT Youth in New Kingston instead of the Children’s Home Fiasco that now obtains?
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