Another sex tape another fall

Another Sex Tape another Fall, how many of these I can’t recall, I’ve lost count with so much out there but should we care?

Even as the remnants of the Tall Bottle Crew sex tape scandal and leaked videos earlier this year in what seemed a healthy anal penetration scene another such report from two other gay men has come to hand. The Bottle crew is still feeling the after effects of that slip up as they are easily recognised due to high visibility in the dancehall and find it hard to be out in public and threats have been sent their way personally and on various platforms, especially Instagram since then unofficially two cases of a similar nature occurred but details are sketchy. One thing is clear to me is that more and more persons are deliberately capturing their sex but not with a view for spillage I imagine; leakages are the collateral damage consequence.

To think this latest case came on of all seasons Easter on Holy Thursday at that; one party had apparently arranged a hook up with the other party but a third player was in the space and whipped out his phone to see the supposed dick down.

In previous posts I had highlighted the fallouts and unintended outings by way of social media as LGBT visibility grew by leaps and bounds, so by virtue of that accidents were bound to happen as social media skills would have been extremely low especially on Facebook at first. This recent case however started on Instagram where it was announced by a younger gay user, the demographic attracted to that platform; which eventually sent persons scampering to a certain porn site for to see the session between the two men. Problem was that the clip was effectively hacked by some smart whiz kid and thus the viral element was exacted shared all over the place.

A copy was sent my way which is how I came into knowledge of the latest drama, there is never a dull day but one of the parties involved has since been forced into self imposed exile similarly to the aforementioned Tall Bottle Crew members and talk of seeking asylum are floating around, I am not so sure they have an easy ride given the genesis of the troubles. Just a day or so after the guys involved are meeting up on all kinds of issues despite their popularity was not like the Tall Bottle Crew. 

Threats on Instagram, voice notes/WhatsAPP videos also with threats and has gotten to the point where the guys had to relocate to another friend’s house. One of the parties involved is from deep rural Jamaica so he is able to escape some of the nonsense, the supposed ‘cameraman’ had since been in hiding as he is blamed for the leak by the other two and their friends; it may not be as simple as they think. Videos and data on smartphone can be hacked if one does not make the settings work for them. It gets worse the smartphone security software are not installed or the firewalls as in place to offer some protection.

Other privacy settings too may not have been in place but with Donald Trump’s executive order on privacy thus leaving all being exposed to advertisers and hackers alike to see your location or even hack passwords and break into the phone storage. The ‘cameraman’ is on the run and a planned beat down is being planned if he is caught as punishment. Facebook fallouts are also still happing just by a cursory unscientific poll I ran prior to the preparation of this post. The latest on was a Clarendonian youngster in his early twenties and another case in St James. One can conclude that these latest errors may be teething pains for an LGBT community that once was not so visible but one would have expected older persons like myself to be making mistakes more so that the millennials.

Some suggestions and tips

If one is going to document ones frolic one should secure the material as best as possible which could include passwording the file(s) in question or lock them away in a secure folder, also check whether or not one may have inadvertently left the Bluetooth on by mistake or by choosing where one shares the materials as newer APPS are now out there to simply rip the shared or played footage without the owners’ knowledge only to see it all over the place. It is all too easy to hack into or end up with leaks so steps must be taken to handle sensitive materials in storage. Platform settings also are a key component as well in terms of profile settings and such which can help to mitigate the possibility of accidents occurring.

Why oh why would persons capture and save repeatedly sex scenes or orgies, is it a part of the new narcissistic psychology linked to social media? All this happening when the very social media is facilitating a couch potato mentality and less contact in person with others. Normally the whole sex tape phenomenon was seen as an American phenomenon in the world of celebrities, locally there was the infamous early revenge porn case of a former female banking employee whose scorned lover deliberately shared the videos and photos but hardly any legal action could have been taken by her as revenge porn legislation is not on the books but defamation legislation is here however. She has since relocated to the United States. Another two gay men found themselves in some major trouble after a leak in 2015, a family member of one of the parties had to be moving about here and there bordering on homelessness but he was able to settle, his face was in full view of the clip at the time which made his defence it wasn’t him fall on disbelieving ears. One has to be so careful and personally that damned phone has to be off and or not in your hand if we are going to hookup; I will definitely not agree to any shooting of footage during the game only for it to reach in the public domain.

Meanwhile

Unconfirmed reports revealed since this latest case also suggests that a blackmail attempt matter carried over from 2016 has been ongoing given a previously stolen phone with sensitive content is being used as a dangling carrot by the thieves to get money from the phone’s owner who is said to be a businessman. He has not made any payments we are told but frankly I don’t believe that. The extortion attempt is said to be linked to a ring of gay phone stealers who are in cahoots with heterosexual miscreants as well who want some $150,000.00 in return for the instrument. The implications for a leak like that can be grave to include loss of reputation, business downturn as clients see the clips that can go viral in a few minutes. The businessman is said to be reluctant to report the matter to the cops as they would have to open the phone or get passwords to verify its ownership and may have legal implications given the buggery law.

Finally while I cannot tell consenting adults what to do may I suggest persons be ultra careful with the use of smartphones, sex and safety.

Happy hunting

Peace & tolerance

H

Oman Lef man afta she ask fi 3some but wid a next man while she watch ...........

So Ragashanti is at it again, oh boi. He just loves the mix up and blender but this time it is an issue that is very much alive out there.

This time it involves a woman who wanted her main man to get into a three way involving another man while she watches. She claimed it was a fantasy of hers to see and this is not strange to me and I have done a previous post on lesbians who sometimes ask to see the act or inquire what do in bed.

also see:

Why do some lesbians or bi women like gay male porn? 2015

Here is Ragga's take:

Ragashanti

Yoggo, yoggo, yow! Wah gwaan TamFam? Hope unuh belly full and naasy nayga nah get di betta a unuh.  

Concrete big up, straight.

On to di drama.

Wrong 3s

So dis bredda ya have him woman, but a gwaan wid a bag a tings pon di side. Him deliberately leave him phone open roun' har cause as far as him concerned, him always mek sure nutten nuh in deh fi she see and find him out. Him mek sure seh him delete everything before him reach home and set him ting so none a him bunna woman dem sen him anything when him deh home.

Anyways, him woman suspect seh him a gwaan wid tings and regularly tek a prips inna him phone, but she neva yet able fi find anything in deh weh gi him weh.

One day though sup'm tell har seh fi check inna him email trash. When she go in deh, she buck up pon a bonanza a information weh confirm seh him a bun har. Yeah, di man been a delete di bunning email dem, but did a lef dem inna di trash! Right away when him woman find di sup'm dem she start forward and text dem to har phone. She den get curious when she see text between him and one a di woman dem a plan a threesome. She jus mek sure she specially forward all a da info deh. But in doing so she realise seh di threesome weh a plan a wid she and another man. Di planning all involve she a sen him a pic a di other man instrument, wid har man a seh him cool wid di size.

However, di plan was not fi him and di other man do anything together inna di threesome. Rather, di deal was dat she did waan fulfil a fantasy fi sort out di two man dem at di same time. And in agreeing to di arrangement him did jus waan mek sure seh di man instrument neva well bigga than fi him own. Him neva waan di man wheel out a helleva lightpost and embarrass him. Dwl.

Nonetheless, even though har man neva did a go inna any gay thing wid di man, she did still shock and turned off seh him did a go inna threesome wid him and a naked man round each other. She seh she coulda probably get past di fact seh him did a bun har wid other woman, but she cyaan get ova seh him agree fi be naked round a next naked man even though him and di man neva did a go do nutten.

She lef him.

Yups! Pack har things, move out, and nuh have no more dealings wid him.

Jus like dat.

All right, a deh so it deh. Jugglementz again.

ENDS

Peace & tolerance

H

also see:

Str8 men who watch lesbian porn ........... 

related Ragashanti posts:

Disturbed by Xnews Story on Drag Queen and Gay Cop 2009

Ragashanti on "Old Harbour bisexual mix-up" 

Ragashanti defends his "Lesbian Mix-up" pieces 2011

Bareback popularity concerns

Given the Safer Sex Week activities and some issues raised in a previous post on this blog on barebacking in anal sex I and indeed some others have concerns. It has surfaced also that some HIV positive men who feel that they do not need to practice safer sex anymore as they are already positive simply enjoy sex in a kind of complacency or abandonment thinking that once they are positive once then that is it; there is no need for vigilance, risk assessments and avoidance of re-infections of other strains of HIV which can be more deleterious to one’s immune system. Albeit that a trend cannot simply be designated within a year or without strong empirical data but cultural practices however can be used as a sign or guide to said trends developing. Just a cursory glance at some private groups on social media or WhatsAPP for that matter or other platforms such as AdamforAdam and hookup sites/blogs suggest more and more men are openly requesting bareback fun even while declaring their HIV positive status, once kept ultra private, it is as if it is a badge of honour to be HIV positive these days and surviving which maybe encouraging to a certain extent but all too risky in other realms. This may be outside of bug chasing or chasers.

Millennials for example have been declaring discomfort with condoms (an old criticism) and with readily available anal hygiene and enema cleansing products in local pharmacies and sex toy shops for example buffered by a kind of legitimization of barebacking in black gay porn men are daring themselves for share pleasure it seems while ignoring that risks are still high despite better working antiretrovirals and that HIV/AIDS is not a death sentence. 

As for the FEMIDOM female condom as an alternative suggested to be used with the inner ring removed that is now being laughed at or scoffed at as the device is deemed too cumbersome and too thick which may be less comforting during sex; with the outer ring also hanging outside seeing it is larger than the rest of the device some say it is like screwing a condom instead of an anus. Indeed this is a sentiment expressed also by older men as well who simply dismiss the FEMIDOM as a balloon to be blown up or used for something else.

also see: Female Condom (FEMIDOM 2) recommended for Gay Sex

The short lived Origami condoms for example that were supposedly designed for anal sex specifically seemed to be off or discontinued despite a launch campaign and an awareness program online, the uniquely shaped and grooved surface is supposed to enhance pleasure for the wearer and the receptive partner as well probably the latter more so; given the mucosal riddled sphincter area and lower opening with millions or nerve endings. Also see: World’s first condom specifically designed for anal sex 2013 and Origami Condom Delayed Due to Embezzlement

Hookup demands

from GMSH

My own experience recently with a mystery stalker of sorts who found the number on one of my blogs publicly listed where he repeatedly asked for a hookup of sorts (despite not knowing me) and declaring he wanted it “raw” meaning penetration without any barrier or a condom. While it is tempting to do same as the good old 1980s for example in the height of the sexual revolution somebody needs to remind or inform men who have sex with men, MSM in the form of anal penetration that HIV is still out there.

Complacency or near fatalism

The heightened HIV social marketing through Global Fund funded efforts nationally and other NGO work has helped but seems to hurt the thinking and sensibilities involved. Persons have concluded that if I am going to die from HIV it won’t happen soon because I can live long with just a tablet a day similar to other lifestyle diseases as diabetes or hypertension but what some folks seem to overlook or ignore or are unaware of or not properly informed in support groups are that there are several other strains of HIV which while one may be positive with one strain that does not impair their immune systems the newer strain can be far more harmful and only seek to reduce one’s immune system to stay sustained. That ‘I am going to enjoy my life’ thinking no matter what is still out there if one is to go by the comments on blogs and porn related fora on social media. Yes the ARVs or HAART treatments are effective in terms of control of Viral loads and improved CD4 counts but missing dosages too can be a challenge; a point that was forcefully made recently on Facebook by an advocate to a young man who insisted he was going to “Fuck til mi dead”

Hot pumped gym and tattoed bodies, well endowed persons coupled with objectification and just the sheer excitement for younger MSM can turn persons into tongue wagging excited persons who end up making wrong or misguided decisions about sex in the heat of the moment. Sadly the Safer Sex Week impetus is near silent on anal sex between men publicly and seem to want to the rely on the hetero-normative sexual relations psychology to trickle over into gay culture. That type of messaging does seem to be getting through to some, I have heard some men say that when they are with a woman they use condoms with them but when they are with a man they don’t as anal sex is better to them in terms of feelings and the ‘grip factor’ and that includes men who do not identify as gay, given that the concept of the word for some is loaded woman aspiring oriented and so called thugs do not want to be a woman but they still hit ass under the radar. There are other psychologies involved stemming from the prison systems as in prison wife culture, gay for the stay psychology and indeed curiosity that seems to be overlooked by the folks who design these fluffy, sometimes simplistic and patronizing sounding campaigns.

Those intersectionalities with gay men who self identify and those men who don’t with the latter thinking that bareback sex is an escape from reality and therefore no thought of risk must interfere cannot be left out of the mix. There are men out there who really believe that they are not at risk once I do it with a men in secret and that the secret albeit without a condom will not expose them to HIV risk; whilst seeing heterosexual sex as the one to use a condom with an outside female partner other than the babymother or wife. At some point there has to be a reality check and a tie-in of those sub cultural matters.

Touching the anal hygiene matter hinted above while the ‘hole maybe clean’ there is the business of that hole being ‘too clean’ meaning the so called good bacteria maybe washed away if one is not too careful, although the self adjusting PH balance Fleet enemas products for example are out there to help to avoid that destruction of those bacteria if one uses other non traditional forms of cleansing the area is exposed without physiological defences naturally. Barebacking especially almost immediately after a cleansing or enema exercise can leave one open to infection if the penetrating partner is infected to transmission of STI including HIV. There are persons who believe that a clean hole by virtue of it being ‘clean’ of faecal matter and odours that all is well afterwards for penetration. Some persons suggest that even rimming (using the tongue to stimulate or even penetrate the anus/sphincter muscle) is OK after an enema but I surmise that a simple pleasurable rim session will not just end there, at some point someone is going to be probed to the ultimate pleasure of it.

The gay porn industry is thriving on bareback for sales even while showing disclaimers in the opening sequence of DVDs and streams identifying HIV risking and encouraging testing and single partners; the challenge is that that disclaimer only runs for a 30 second or so period while the rest of the movie sometimes up to two hours long is all about the ass and dick of it thus almost killing the important message.

Antigay (un)bareback anal sex abhorrence

The very bareback issue and the sex police of religious fanatics have sought to capitalise on the matter to enhance their push for maintaining a 486 year old buggery law with all its amendments and adjustments in between. Anal sex bareback or not is not the untidy affair as some such as Dr Wayne West of the Jamaica Coalition for a Healthy Society JCHS has sought to present it to his loyal following and misguided or ignorant persons. He has sought to use the thin lining nature of the area to suggest we are deserving of an HIV as the transmission will be greater which is true but so it is also for the vagina provided if the penetrating partner is already positive. But intellectual dishonesty is part and parcel of the strategy even by so called Christians who misplace God’s purpose to promote hate.

Encourage monogamous or outer-course sexual activity as an option more

Even monogamous unions with uninfected partners and trust have to also consider safer sex issues I suggest; as safety and hygiene are crucial especially the latter but I get the impression that such other considerations are not part and parcel of the MSM interventions more forcefully. Suggesting non-penetrative sexual activity via a penis seems all but missing from the scheme of things is one is to take into account the discourse on sexual matters with younger MSM. I have been trying via my blogs to promote proper anal health but one blogger is not enough and I do not get the feeling

The message has to be repeated more loudly in terms of the risks involved and more openly about barebacking; after all buggery is not proven by mere eyesight but a physical examination by a doctor providing that the accused did not take a shower or enema in between the accusation, the arrest or detention pursuant to preparing the doctors’ report; a report premised on the thinking of no barrier sex and residual materials left behind in or around the anus or sphincter muscle. The doctor’s report unfortunately even in today’s world is still prepared on a thinking of no condoms used in the act in the first instance, it is usually after the examination or during that the harvested samples or culture related spermicidal findings that in the comments section of the standard form the doctor may make a note of the presence of spermicidal material to indicate a condom was present. The reluctance by the NGOs and the national program to openly speak to anal penetration way more forcefully seems a little ridiculous or near unfounded to me in addressing risky behaviour linked to men who are going that route for sexual pleasure.

More anon

Peace & tolerance

H

also see:

Safer rimming or anilingus .......... tips & suggestions

Anal sex mistakes gay men makes ..... some suggestions 

Anal: Should you go back there? 

Oh really! ............ Penile/anal penetration is NOT SEX Jamaica Coalition for a Healthy Society?

Safer sex week 2017 ................

The National Family Planning Board Sexual and Reproductive Health Agency (NFPB-SRHA) hopes to make sex even safer this Valentine’s Day during their annual observance of Safer Sex Week from February 12 to 18.

To commemorate Safer Sex Week, the agency will be hosting a Health Fair tomorrow, Valentine’s Day, at the Prison Oval in Spanish Town, St Catherine, at which the public will have access to family planning methods, including condoms, free HIV testing, and other health checks and Valentine’s Day treats.

The theme for this year’s observance is “Condom + Another Contraceptive = #UltimateProtection”, which underscores the agency’s push for dual contraceptive use. Condoms are an effective method to protect against pregnancy, HIV and other STIs, but according to the NFPB-SRHA, it is always best to have a back-up method such as the pill, the injection or an intra-uterine device.

Regrettably, Jamaicans, particularly those within the 15-29 age group, are not practising safe sex every time. This is evident in the latest data in the 2016 UNAIDS Prevention Gap Report which found that the highest increase of new HIV infections is within that age group, the agency said. Additionally, one per cent of all live births in Jamaica are to adolescent girls, many of whom reported that their pregnancy was either mistimed or unwanted.

To address this trend, the agency is imploring Jamaicans to ensure that they, and their partners, are fully protected before engaging in sex, and as a result, the activities planned for Safer Sex Week are aimed at increasing dual method use for all ages.

The health fair will feature performances by the Jamaica Cultural Development Commission and will be hosted by comedian Christopher “Johnny” Daley. This will be the first official activity as the NFPB-SRHA celebrates its 50th anniversary in 2017.

But as usual the business of anal sex between consenting gay adults is quietly slid under the radar so as not to avoid any noise from fanatical religious voices; while the NFPB and others seem to want an overflow of the messaging to gay men to come from heteronormatively tinged social marketing efforts.

Sad that this is the nonsense that still obtains and with the talk sometimes openly by more younger gay men in practising bareback sex as it is seen seemingly to be more attractive given the proliferation of gay porn which tacitly legitimizes it. 

also see:

No gays allowed at freaky party with one sided bi-erasue by The National Family Planning Board (NFPB)

Sex-ed does not say have sex — NFPB head

But the same NFPB folks as indicated in the post above showed up their lack of understanding in a sense on the issues of MSM sex, risk and a refusal on the face of it to engage bisexual persons who may have wanted to attend the planned freaky party then.

In the meantime I want to encourage persons to go get tested if one is engaged in; barebacking is a challenge though tempting and although we don't see folks suffering via visible AIDS related/opportunistic infections anymore complacency might be an issue not properly addressed with the millennials and younger.

Peace & tolerance

H

On white men as bottoms in interracial gay porn

So I commented recently on a post by fellow blogger a{GAY}tekeeper{iam on a similarly captioned post where he asked at the time why does it seem that white or Caucasian men seem to be the bottom or receptive partner in gay porn? (or words to that effect) A couple answers came in and in my comment I had suggested that maybe it had something to do with the objectification of African descended men and the whole notion of big penises, virility, and endowment and so on. 

porn added for this post

My comment was:

"Maybe it has something to do with the objectification of us as black men and the way in which power is defined as resident in our penises and dick sizes and the associated use (in the fuck), submission might be a means to get away from the established reality of the present power differentials of privileged Caucasian males ..... this is a subject matter worth exploring some more, Howie." 

What I never added was the animalistic component as well when pitted against white men being privileged as gay men long before the struggle for equality and the expansion of porn producers, actors and owners becoming more diversified.

It appears that most production houses of interracial porn tend to be run by white men or white producers and within I would say the last fifteen or twenty years with the explosion of black stars such as TJ Swan, Humongous, Bobby Blake and Daryll Harris and so on; all of whom have also done interracial movies. In the days of VHS tapes and getting movies we even in Jamaica were bombarded by white starred clips and movies such as the Stallion series and those stars. If one got their hands on an all black gay movie one would be lucky. Nowadays there is so much to choose from and like a revolution we have gone back to the pre-condom, pre-HIV epidemic days where men just fucked so long as the hole was looking good, hot and of course clean.

The other generations of porn stars seem to be pushing the envelope on all fronts, from experimentation with scatting which I am not big fan of to cum-farting to dirty ass eating with either other black men or white or Latino men as well. Bearing in mind the (b)Latino influence as well in what I see as the cross over from white porn becoming less popular in minority circles to a more steady acceptance of seeing our own archetypes fucking. There was a whole cadre of Latino stars too numerous to mention who were in the interim of the 80s, 90s and early 2000s who also made their mark; at one point I can remember the push for (b)Latino movies with people like Castro, Vic (80s star) and other big dick stars especially in movies like “I Was a Teenage Hustler” comes to mind. Present day stars such as Cornbread, Dream, Jiovanne, Redz, Nubius, Remy Mars, JT, Shorty J(known for the cellphone in his hole), Breion one of my favourites as the expert rimmer, Pimp and so on do not seem so keep in interracial scenes though, maybe with the exception of Breion he has done a few. I wonder why, while newer white stars seem to be interested in getting down with a black dick. Production houses such as Thughunter seem to make it their point of duty not only to do outdoor seeming impromptu sex scenes which I kinda like but also specialize in mixed race actors with usually the white guy as the bottom mostly although flip flops also are done in some others.

I like watching a good black dick going in some white ass indeed sometimes but not on a regular, frankly there is a feeling of taming or disciplining some privileged white dude. I guess dick is dick and as long as it is good and the owner is a good user does it matter his race? Maybe there is an exploratory component to; to step outside the norm and or comfort to try something or someone new or different from oneself. I am concerned though that bare backing maybe seen as normative in gay sex and risk of HIV may be construed as immaterial. I know it is tempting with that good tightness and skin to skin but do we really know our fuck buddies status? In a workshop earlier this year the issue came up with some young gay men aged average early twenties and a few of them did openly expressed that they have done it bareback which was a little surprising to me; the justification was they have seen it in gay porn and it looks tempting and the tightness factor also came through. I guess some of it also linked to dancehall culture’s persistent reference to the misogynistic messages on sex and dominance in the act, coupled with harder sex being seen as good, the rougher the better and the old glamity/punnany construct a comparison to a woman’s vagina.

I have had requests over the years from white men on platform such as Adam4adam and so on who have a fantasy on island men; they think we all somehow or another have massive 15’’ dicks and will fuck the living daylights out of any hole we get. Our local gay or mixed porn sites though blocked to us here in Jamaica thanks to former Prime Minister Bruce “not in my cabinet” Golding have made sure they find and showcase massive dick holders such as Rass Mansta whose 14 incher is a favourite for many (including me lol); I wish I could get it to suck. Many orgy seekers who are from Europe as well have this notion of well hung black men here coupled with the fact that endowed ‘rent-a-dread’ concept that exists in some tourists areas for not only women but male clients as well. I have had my share of ‘white meat’ but no offence to my Caucasian readers I prefer my own Jamaican meat and or African descended partner(s) . It is not only Caucasian men that request or have notions of grander of the big dick island boy but also African American, Afro Canadian and Afro UK men who make requests or message me online on various platforms; I guess the big buddy Jamaican man is a phenomenon we have to live with. Even African American thugs who are also well endowed want to hookup with other local brothers to stick fight I suppose.

I guess as more tolerance comes through, barriers on all fronts including race relations settle, expanding visibility of interracial porn especially and accessibility is going to cement mixed race relationships, liaisons and quickies we are going to see more bottoming of Caucasian men.

Keep fucking brothers and remember to wrap it up if you are not sure.

Peace & tolerance

H

CitiBwoy Porn Star Passed ..... Fundraising in progress for burial

CitiBwoy in good times

Jovannie 

I learned earlier today that former Adult Film Star "CitiBwoy died at the age of 28. Unconfirmed sources say it was due to a massive heart attack. CitiBwoy would have been 29 on November 16 of this year. Although a prominent figure in the Adult Industry CitiBwoy had also made a name for himself in ballroom community. His will truly be missed by all those who knew him.

Former lover and on screen film star Jovonnie confirmed CitiBwoys passon on Instagram and Twitter:

My thoughts and prayers are with Citibwoy’s family, Jovonnie and love ones!

One thing I respect about Citibwoy was that he kept it real about the adult industry. He let it be known exactly how it really is in the business back in 2011.

I hope this doesn’t come off as disrespectful in times like this but CitiBwoy and Jovonnie were one of the hottest couple in the adult industry. I always said their best work was with each other.

Check out the video below and let us remember him in good times!

So cherish every moment, with the people you care for..Tomorrow isn't promised or we are not aware… https://t.co/t8OMTzKMtv

— Official Jovonnie (@realJOVONNIE) November 8, 2015

A fav..RIP sincerely gonna be missed..#memories #MissingYou #Mending https://t.co/7qDGwTD2iU

— Official Jovonnie (@realJOVONNIE) November 7, 2015

help raise funds

also see:

Raw Thugs series ' 'Pimp' passed away

He was one of my favourite black porn stars apart from Breion (the best ass eater in the game) he too (Pimp) also eats ass like its going out of style and is a good flexible dude in bed too. he can handle dick good and give it too as was seen in Raw Thugs 1.

also another favourite of mine is Breion! .... luv him luv him luv him, he eats ass like it's going out of style, sticking that tongue in that shoot. Jovannie will eat that ass good too especially with scenes involving CitiBwoy ..... woot woot!

Jovannie & CitiBwoy in action in good days

Rest in Peace Citibwoy you provided much front end lifting entertainment.

Good to see Jovannie moving on as well.

I know this is a post outside the norm for this blog please see a fairly new blog from GLBTQJA Battymantings www.battymantings.blogspot.com to see more xrated materials.

Peace & tolerance

H

Raw Thugs series ' 'Pimp' passed away

I belatedly learned of the death of one time porn star Taron O. Webb, aka CocoDorm's Pimp. The news came not through any gay news site, or even from the big gay porn news sites like The Sword and Queer Me Now, but by word of mouth, from a friend. Taron's passing wasn't covered by them: the life of a young black man isn't newsworthy enough, even if he was once a part of the industry those sites cover.

here is a preview from the now famous Raw Thugs with Chino, Pimp & Tajai

He was one of my favourite black porn stars apart from Breion (the best ass eater in the game) he too (Pimp) also eats ass like its going out of style and is a good flexible dude in bed too. he can handle dick good and give it too as was seen in Raw Thugs 1.

With no reputable news coverage of his passing, we're left with his Facebook page, flooded with condolences from friends, family and fans. Their words - and Taron's own - tell us a little about him. One moving post is left by one Moe Marquize, a former partner:

"They say never wait until it's too late to apologize & for that I'm so thankful I had a opportunity to tell you in person... how sorry I am & also to let you know I forgive [you] as well. People coming into [your] life at the unexpected time, and you was one of them. Now looking back every obstacles I had to overcome I overcame them from the lesson I learn from you (my first) and for that [you] will always remain in my heart... words can't explain how hurt I am right now, but I'm know your in a better place. I will always love you Taron O. Webb R.I.P (tore this pic up almost 7 years ago, every time I wanted to threw it away I couldn't, I'm glad I didn't."

Taron was seriously ill towards the end of his short life. On the 4th May, he posted, "Life is rough and can get very depressing watching your body deteriorate before your very own eyes having surgery after surgery and most of all doing it all alone with no one there to encourage you but yet I'll still lift my hands up until the Lord Jesus Christ and tell him thank you anyhow, thank you for what you have given me, thank you for being my God and my guide, and thank you that heaven is my final destination in the name of Jesus Christ thank you."

Two weeks later, he was dead.

Moe Marquize posted on 18th May, "Nobody will never know, you was my first my everything, I love [you] soo much Taron O. Webb I thank God I got to hold you right before you took your last breath.. I'm soo hurt right now, I can't stop cry.. please god, I need help."

That's what's left, lives touched, lives devastated. Those of us who knew of Taron through his performances - a short chapter in an even shorter life - are saddened, shocked, confused by the the jarring juxtaposition of sex and death, of youth and mortality. And there will be those who will write Taron off for the path he travelled; "another dead porn star", as if witnessing him having sex diminishes him, but not the viewer.

But he mattered. His life mattered, and his passing matters.

Taron O. Webb (1985-2015).

Thanks to Ka-os for alerting us to this one, I almost missed it.

World Map of Penis sizes ...... (xrated materials contained)

The interactive map above shows averages of penis sizes around the world I doubt if its accurate but you be the judge as far as Jamaica is rated we are averaged at 6.3 inches which I seriously doubt we have developed a reputation over the years of having fairly good sized dicks and based on my own personal experience I have seen anything from 8 inches to a whopping 14 inches so maybe the folks here need to redo our landscape. Black men in general have always had a reputation of having larger penises by virtue of skin distribution on the shaft and more sturdy erections that those of our Caucasian and Asian counterparts. Latinos seem to be coming in a close second these days going by the explosion of Latin gay porn mostly from the United States and Brazil although that arena of adult entertainment cannot be the only yard stick used to judge. There are some Caucasian men who seem to be getting the size gift in recent times, a similar premise applies as well as in the latino camp.

Black Men objectified

A major downside to the issue is that we are objectified based on the belief that we are well hung with overseas photographers such as Robert Mapplethorpe getting alot of flack for portraying black men as nothing more than long dicked sex objects more so than individuals with a mind. Fans black and white and eclectic art lovers however hold his work in high regard as evidenced in coffee table publications right here in Jamaica albeit his books have to be specially ordered or brought in ones hand luggage many also purchase his slides at art auctions houses online and physically overseas, here is an example:

here is a work from Mapplethorpe from 1986 called "Formal Cock" which is going for $12, 500 at Christies Auction go here for more pieces

a typical Jamaican penis (wood) could have been seen as taken from the blocked Jamaican adult entertainment site Rudejam a message reads to Jamaicans who try to access it as follows:

".....not available

Sorry, this content cannot be made available in your area."

The site has been blocked from Jamaicans for some time now.

The porn industry has also followed suit in this objectification it seems and has and is making millions of dollars from more and more "well hung" stunning black men entering the arena specifically gay sex porn which was once dominated by Caucasian actors. Locally we have our own versions now same sexed porn with well endowed men who seem to be getting and younger by the turn, as some would ask "a weh dem bois get dem big wood from?" One wonders of it is due to repetitive masturbation or sexual activity that leads to these impressive sizes these days? The two major site however who offer that are blocked from local ISPs so one would have to be creative and find secondary sources to view them.

You be the judge, if you are having trouble using the map here then go to the source for it: http://www.targetmap.com/viewer.aspx?reportId=3073 also see the detailed breakdowns as per country: http://www.everyoneweb.com/worldpenissize/ here is a Gleaner 2007 article on penis size: The penis size debate

I know this is a post outside the norm for this blog please see a fairly new blog from GLBTQJA www.battymantings.blogspot.com to see more xrated materials.

Peace and tolerance.

H

Cybersex and relationships

At another bloggers' Lyme recently this time done online another sticky topic came up that of cybersex as done by persons involved in so called monogamous relationships. Long term lovers tend to loose their sex drive after a while and resort to other forms of sexual activities to keep the action alive. Many worry about the normalcy in their sex lives when cybersex, sex toy usage and Internet porn takes the place of real person to person contact making the love die in a sense. Homosexual males whether for instant gratification of just addictions tend to use cybersex as a way to satisfy desires quickly.

Fantasies can be acted out online with ones face hidden but of course the all important genitalia is key to attracting partners online for masturbatory sessions and for some twice or three times in one night. Those fantasies may not be ones that are had with the live-in partner and to compensate often time secret cybersex camera action is employed so as not to pressure the live-in partner to bend over backwards to please the other. The at home partner still gets the emotional attention and support necessary to create the illusion or appearance of a monogamist union.

Does this practice lead to decreases in love life if one or both partners in a relationship are practising?

Some say yes some say no, as it depends on how it’s done. If one partner for example is on a business trip or is away for a short time that maybe an excuse for cybersex with outsiders not with the at home partner. One blogger at the Lyme says he used to practice cam to cam masturbation with guys even when he was with his partner full time but he knew he loved his partner no matter what, he explained that he never showed his face only from the neck down and chose guys who did the same for one on one cam action. The experts say that one can get addicted to cybersex and tend to loose real emotional and sexual desires for another person on a one on one level because the attraction is just for instant gratification or as some call it a quick nut. Then there is the proverbial hook up dude who uses the internet to meet one night standers for just quick fun and may incorporate cybersex before the actual hook-up takes place or compensate for distance if the meeting cannot be done at that particular time.

Is that considered cheating?

Some say yes and some say no, if it’s an open relationship where both partners can go outside the union for sexual pleasures well it couldn’t be considered cheating but if the union is monogamous in nature and one steps out in this format without the others knowledge then emotionally it is cheating. I guess it depends on the grounds and boundaries set by the persons involved in the relationship. Others felt strong that it was in fact cheating and that dishonesty in any form leads to a must fail in the union as time progresses, unions must remain monogamous and lovers must be true to each other no matter what if not its just a casual “spirit tek” mess that’s doomed to fail. There are those who also engage in orgies by allowing a third or fourth partner into a session for sex but emotionally the two original members of the couple know they are tied together and share a bond.

Cybersex as a safer sex method

Others in the HIV/AIDS advocacy world do encourage the use of cybersex as a means to safe sex. Many experts encourage its use to avoid risky behaviour and also to examine ones possible partner while on camera to literally look for signs of sexually transmitted infections around ones genitalia and so on before the actual hook-up takes place. Self masturbation was already recommended as a form of safer sex practices but camming has now been added in the digital age of instant video streaming and live chats. How repetitive one employs this form of sexual play is questionable as again I draw on the notion of getting addicted to emotionless sex.

meanwhile here is a treat:

What’s your take on the issue?

Public comments please

Peace and tolerance

H