Want dick, pick a tree

Given some good news that came on April 10 this year when one of the senior cruiser was able to win a competition in Europe the situational changes have been rapid towards the negative. The crime situation in Kingston is the main cause, with infrastructural adjustments and clearance of spaces as the spaces were bought by new owners. Recent situations have almost brought to a halt the practices, robberies, decoys, police patrol and arrests of persons allegedly ‘caught in the act’ and in one instance in October 2016 nearing the old cholera cemetery one of the oldest spots where the two men who were involved were slapped with a buggery charge at first but subsequently the cops in a bid to embarrass the guys dropped the charges to gross indecency but the judge throw out the matter warned the men and also admonished the police.

Other cases involved an alleged decoy posing as gay targets men in spaces and robbing them of cash and phones; rapidly growing crime in west Kingston has had a deleterious effect on sex seeking patterns as new gangsters clash for power and extortion money, the shooting of the brother of Dudus Coke at Hellshire has only added salt to the wound and official rules of no robbery and abuse or persons has whittled away and almost on a daily basis shootings and new extortion rules had widened with some vendors and store owners have either relocated or do not come out as regular to avoid the ‘badman tax’ cosmopolitan gay cruising as we know it may soon come to an end. As high rises are being built and green spaces disappear the sex seeking behaviours of those who like their sex in the outdoors may have or are being forced to adjust. Problem is the more rural spaces are now the options being explored according to what some of the fellas tell me. I am not active anymore as time is tight and my old leg injury is acting up again after a vouging session I was in at a party some time ago.

Old spots such as a sea side area in St Ann for starters, a spot that I had done a post on of a fight after a session between two men. Other spots in St James too have been having their share or issues and queries, unconfirmed reports suggest there have been some issues involving robberies, near misses and a crack on commercial sex work overall which all spill over to affect cruisers. Certain beachfront areas too have been impacted for various reasons, police patrols to crack down on the drug for guns for drugs or drugs for food trade involving Haitians, the floating away of cocaine and marijuana sometimes in broad daylight which is monitored I am told by some of the guys where Jamaica Defence Force, JDF helicopters so many outdoor seekers for sex retreat or significantly curtail their naughty shenanigans.

Previous geographical changes shows the steady changes over the years

 

see: St Ann cruiser’s near miss & a sprained arm

A longtimer in his late forties (name withheld by request) in the cruising business is now nursing a sprained arm after an encounter with one of those unsure brothers who seemingly according to the man is on the fence when it comes to men and sexual activity. I dread these kinds of men who can literally change their persona in a heartbeat especially after the fun is over (cum) and he is back to earth so to speak; it is as if he has lost all desire after ejaculation or high arousal and he probably feels ‘dirty’ and he blames the other man of inveigling him into sex or he has a guilt trip that he just did something wrong (a kind of I can’t help myself remorse) as he was trying to ‘change’ as it were from having gay feelings to heterosexual ones in terms of sex. 

December 2015 was the time of the incident at a popular hunting spot nearing Ocho Rios close to the beach, in my more naughtier years lol I have had some quick encounters there; the fellow cruiser made his way there for a potential hook-up and met the man turned perpetrator, the man is also a repeat visitor and is known for his gifted endowment; both had made the move to commence some fun and the quick business was eventually dealt with; the men walked to another location and started a conversation which is not the norm in those outdoor circumstances but none the less it occurred; usually persons leave the scene and go their separate ways with a sort of ‘next time’ expectation resonated in their minds. In a radical turn around by the perpetrator in terms of his demeanor he started to accuse the not yet injured cruiser of forcing him into sex and he was not happy from the get go of their encounter and he was uncomfortable with sex with men and that it was a sin etc; this was said despite no such feelings were expressed in the heat of the moment and fun.

also this one: Cruisers missed a mobbing, geographical changes continue to old haunts 

It read in part, After a week long investigation confirmation has come into a matter that as we say was ‘stink’ or popular on the streets of parts of downtown Kingston and Half Way Tree regarding an incident in the very early hours of last Saturday December 12 involving two men now known as popular cruisers who were attacked by men at a popular spot out at western Kingston’s old industrial district. Bearing in mind the intermittent unconfirmed incidents prior and geographical changes to the areas once used for men seeking outdoor sexual liaisons or a quickie; especially after the awful murder of an old expert Franky who also happened to be an old partner of mine from in the nineties has been ongoing; said changes have been ongoing for years but have since stepped up I would say within the last five years based on observation and conversations with persons who access the spaces over time.

Interestingly even those now absent from Jamaica via asylum who used to use said spaces or hunt for that hot proverbial hookup still actually keep in touch as was evidenced post Franky’s murder at an old haunt, an area known as ‘Boil up’ when a few calls came from overseas whose voices I did not recognize at first but after describing who they were it became apparent that the network is still linking up if only for psychological support or maintaining a link to memories of successful episodes with other men and good times as well as bad ones. 

also see:

Cruising Community Challenges.......... Geographical Changes Continue in 2015

A cruiser’s mistake leads to another geographic change & public resistance 2014

Cruising community bemoans the loss of "space" 2012

Portland's murder: The loss of a long-timer tragically ....................

older entries:

ANOTHER GEOGRAPHIC CHANGE BLOW DEALT TO THE CRUISING COMMUNITY

GAY CRUISER SUFFERS BROKEN ARM AFTER TUSSLE

Cruising community challenges continue ............

The Cruising community’s dilemma .....

Outdoor sex and the issues to being caught 

Peace & tolerance

H

Cruiser robbed of phone on Tom Redcom Avenue

Tuesday February 21st will not be the same for a cruiser in his early twenties as he ventured along one of the oldest pavement pounding spots for gay men or other MSM who seek sexual services via commercial sex workers male or female. The vicinity of the rear of the Edna Manley College just behind the Oxford Medical Centre building is well known for all of kinds of shenanigans and is frequented by cruisers, generations of MSM/transgender homeless & displaced & thieves who are sometimes attracted to them and who prey on them. The present Shoemaker Gully problem of guys living together in spaces was at Tom Redcom Avenue where near very week there would be a story in the tabloids be it the Star News or the now defunct XNews previously known as The Enquirer. Robberies were also a feature then to also include HIV prevention Outreach Officers for certain NGOs as victims but more for money and or other personal effects as opposed to now and the escape route was far easier through the adjacent car park as one approach the Oxford Road, Old Hope Road and Tom Redcom Avenue stop light.

Around 10 pm on Tuesday 21st the man was walking northwards on Tom Redcom Avenue where he was about to see what he could meet up on for the night, bearing in mind the recent relocation of the Shoemaker homeless MSM/transgender group alongside the female commercial sex workers as well the scattering of sorts send persons back to old spots with the pimps and robberies (sometimes being the very pimps who are often heterosexuals) the man was approached according to him by a person resembling a man who asked if he was doing business. The man responded no and continued walking (being a cruiser and not a potential commercial sex worker client) but as he continued towards the Library he was approached again by the same person, apparently the giveaway was the earplugs which in hindsight was a wrong move; as he approached the Little Theatre the robber pulled a knife and lunged forward towards the victim, this happening as traffic zipped by, the man tried to place himself in the glare of the oncoming traffic lights so as to dissuade the robber but it did not.

The man and the robber ended up in a tussle where he the robber demanded the phone with strong aggression, “gimme di bomboclaat phone pussy!” was quoted by the man according to his report. The man was subsequently relieved of his BLU smartphone and some three thousand dollars in cash. The robber made his way to the gully that runs immediately behind the Oxford Eye Clinic (Medical Centre); an old haunt as well for pimps, homeless and commercial sex workers, cruisers would normally prefer the nearby unoccupied guard house in the middle of the car park or the infamous Lignum Vitae tree by the now properly fenced school. I recall my outreach days then and admittedly hunt for some fun

He says he regrets having gone there and not being better prepared; he said he was just passing through and had not intended to make a direct visit. The man said he had gone by before but much later and not with a smartphone but switching his chip to a banger; banger phones are also robbed occasionally as well as they are used for calls possibly by accomplices and or sold to others.

It is unclear as to whether or not the robber is one of the persons who reside at the lower end of the Shoemaker Gully aka Kencot Gully which sits some fifteen minutes away from Tom Redcom Avenue, another Gully that seems to be getting some attention in terms of traffic is the one that passes into Cross Roads and that runs infront the Andrews Hospital nearing Cross Roads. The gully where the robber escaped also merges with that gully as an artery. Speculation has been rife in recent times that there is a connection to homeless gays apart from other miscreants, as robberies on that section of Old Hope Road of women mostly whose handbags are snatched or phones taken by force. Other robberies if not clashes by the opposite Union Square, the Eyeglass Centre and infront the National Council on Drug Abuse, NCDA offices are legendary for years and an unconfirmed robbery in October 2016 of another man by that area raises the level of concern.

The matter was not reported to the police as the man has decided to cut his losses, but he has lost both chips as it was a dual SIM card device with loads of numbers. Meanwhile another phone ring that was thwarted recently after a Facebook phone selling group was infiltrated by investigators are would be buyers netted an elaborate scheme spanning Kingston and St Catherine, a lesbian was set to be part of the arrangement. It was only in late December after a series of discussions a police officer encouraged persons in a private social media group of which he is apart pleaded with persons to lay off hunting for a while; the victim was not a part of that group but linked to a member, he has since joined the fray. 

Please encourage others to tread carefully with phones, avoid at all costs wearing headphones as that is a dead giveaway or at least certain types on expensive headsets or hands free devices of a certain brand such as Bose and so on. If one has to go on the road in such matters or certain parts of town carry a banger and not a smartphone and finally avoid giving away your location if one has a smartphone on their person or if not tell a close trusted friend where you will be; turn on whatever recovery assisting security features such as tracking or remote wiping of data after the phone has been stolen. Avoid fights with a would-be robber who is armed as one’s life is far more important than a replaceable device.

Cruise carefully fellas.

Peace & tolerance

H

Poor social media navigation still causing fallouts

As social media platforms become the more accepted form of expression from a local perspective older, some younger or inexperienced users are learning the hard way. Even as Facebook is still seen as the master of the social media avenues and other micro blogging platforms such as Twitter play near catch up alongside Instagram for the more hip youngsters it seems the excitement of it all is somehow causing mistakes to be made and inadvertent outings by users is leading to all kinds of clashes and even forced evictions. While social media has helped greatly in raising the visibility of LGBT people in Jamaica and enhances networking indeed online based advocacy and interventions it has come with some unintended consequences if one is not careful. Bearing in mind we are coming from the days of exclusion, mainstream media omissions and obfuscation and homo-negative stigma. Only privileged so called ‘uptowners’ who penned articles & letters to the editors of print media while some columnists such as Jennifer Ffrench(actual spelling) tried their hands at matters on bisexuality and so on. We did not have blogs then and computers so it was an Olympia typewriter for example that was used by outfits then such as Gay Freedom Movement, GFM. 2016 there were three such reports, with one confirmed that came to hand and the simplicity of the matters may have looked just that, simple; they however exploded into something else as arguments ensue and things got physical in one case in St Ann.

The business of profiling persons due to their perceived sexual orientation by watching the gender of the likes of photos or comments, comparing how many women if any are on the publicly listed friends’ list, screenshots and archiving of comments only to have them surface in the future if and when an argument ensues as proof that they ‘knew all along’ there was a series of online workshops in 2015 and again in 2016 by some but of course the usual lack of continuity is the deterrent and as previous posts on this blog tried to accomplish some feedback suggested some folks took heed. There needs to be a sustained intervention of some kind with funding or not as it does not require that so much, but with some folks everything must have a stipend or salary before they act which is what spoils or indeed drastically slow any work that is required.

Quick cases summary:

1). St Catherine a young man was forced to relocate to a rented space after a relative checked his Facebook page just after the platform changed how persons profiles appear, the new introduction section on top of one’s work history he apparently placed words to the effect that he was gay and proud; in doing so without filtering who he wanted to see the declaration such as relatives it all came out. The relative, an aunt made a scene of the matter and although she is older she recently acquired a smartphone and is still learning how to navigate same. She demanded the young man find his own space as she was not going to tolerate any ‘battyman’ at her house. The man’s other family are overseas.

2). The proverbial leaving the device/phone unattended happenings, this one in early 2016, the phone was peered into and messages perused, Instagram and Facebook profiles examined and the male relative who did so went as far as to create a fake profile with a muscled torso as the main picture leading to sending a friends’ request to the male owner of the phone. The man fell for the request and responded positively to the request without first verifying who the person behind it was. Weeks later the man in question found himself getting violent messages and a female relative could almost recount what he commented on, which photos he liked and asked why did he have so many men on his friends’ list, she was also furious that he had a profile of this nature but never added her and instead added her to a more pristine profile instead. The man simply went to crash with a friend and allowed things to die down.

3). A carry over from a 2015 matter with a similar profiling construct around it, this time with an older gentleman as the impacted person. It was a co-worker who was the homophobe involved but ironically that co-worker has since been fired for other reasons outside of the hate. The co-worker was watching the man’s Facebook profile for some time and as he posted links to various stories that were LGBT friendly. It was another co-worker who pulled the man aside and told him in confidence about the shenanigans of the now fired homophobe. Thankfully that one did not end up in worse case scenario but it shows how easy a simple use or misuse of a profile can land people in challenges.

Questionable narcissism

As visibility is raised however there are some concerns about the near frenzy some persons share almost anything on social media; in almost a desperate search for attention or the misguidedly valued ‘Like’ as I said much to the laughter of a group recently the only thing I have not seen yet are photos of persons leaving the pieces in the porcelain after use but I guess that would be not allowed by the platform managers. Uploading photos of food for example and such at a rate that is astonishing sometimes it makes for worry and wonderment as to when do persons find time to things in the real world or engage real people when individuals including and most disturbingly LGBT operatives and advocates as it were post and tweet away like crazy. Is it to compensate for the missing years of tolerance or acceptance by others? While I understand that it does something for the self to be out and proud (relatively speaking) it is going beyond crazy at times; changing photos every hour almost on the hour, tweets that amount to be mindless inane babble and shade throwing the biggest one of them all while presenting what could amount to be a farce of altered or bettered versions of themselves. It is something that has been on my mind since 2012 after what could be described as a dual personality related matter where the online persona was nowhere near the true picture in real time.

That case had some consequences as well and it pushed some to ask persons to be just a little bit more truthful about their profiles and such.

Some social media usage tips: (several others exist elsewhere)

1) Monitor carefully your profile as best as possible

2) Set boundaries just in case

3) Filter your friends’ list or followers to maybe include those who are able to see what is on your page/profile

4) Occasionally check your settings as sometimes a policy change and or new features added tend to adjust ones profile to a system default, often without notice from the platform operators

5) Block persons the moment there is drama and if necessary screenshot any threats and so on if made

6) Set up private pages with persons with like interests as members so as to avoid others on your main profile to become just a little bit too inquisitive

Other platforms such as GRINDr have been having their own challenges as well, as a recent fake profile incident shows, the profile’s owner became the brunt of the joke in the final analysis as he was led into an entrapment of sorts after robbing a phone from someone after a one nigh hookup. Deceptive THOTS and trade MSM are everywhere and they will use any means necessary to hustle. Adam for Adam is still used but not so much by millennials as older men like myself; they have since stepped up their game though in terms of security/verification features alongside a strengthened phone-APP to meet the competition out there. Tagged also has been quietly making some changes too.

More anon and happy hunting with vigilant usage

Peace & tolerance

H

also see:

Dubious Adam4Adam Profiles, Unscrupulous Sports, Gay Imposters, Robberies 

The THOT of the walk who is oral

More on power bottoms ....................

Cyber bullying, stigmatization, decency and such

Shebada receive death threats from ‘cruiser’ ...........

Shebada in action in one of his plays

 the cruiser in question

Keith ‘Shebada’ Ramsey found himself the brunt of death threats via a voice note from a supposed downlow man who allegedly hail from St Catherine or have links to that part of the island. It is believed things went sour between the two when Shebada refused his advances in a kind of ‘gay for pay’ posture as some of these so called overhyped thugs do get into. If he knew as the man throwing the threats that Shebada was gay or a “battyman” why would he be in an extended debate with Keith Ramsey in the first place, a question on the minds of many upon the circulating of the voice note. Why would a man who is parading as a homophobe go to the point of saving previous voice notes suggesting some sort of sexual discussion allegedly done by Shebada; there is clearly more to this than meets the eye.

Shebada @ 1:39 proceeded to accuse the man of being a gay hustler under the quiet, and I am all too well aware of them indeed but not this one personally. Mr Ramsey had some choice phrases for the man too disturbing to type out but the video has it all. Shebada then nailed it by suggesting that if he is a battyman then why hasn’t the pretentiously upset man blocked Mr Ramsey as yet? The fundamental question the age in my view. Listen @ 3:17 onwards. th

In some other circles the cynicism is clear indeed the homophobia as well with some persons making comments similar to the ‘cruiser’ but Shebada is used to that king of thing, in 2013 the matter of his perceived sexual orientation came up and he has not confirmed or for all intents and purposes denied it. That infamous public squabble with Beenieman some years ago is still fresh in the minds of many where Beenieman labelled Shebada as a faggot and he (Beenie)wanted nothing to do with him as he was supposedly approached for a performance contract at one Ramsey’s shows.

Popular Jamaican comedian Keith “Shebada” Ramsey sat down for an interview with Winford Williams in 2013 on CVM TV’s On Stage show.

At the time Shebada was widely regarding as the new face of comedy in Jamaica but his fame didn’t come without some harsh backlash from dancehall.

Since getting his big break in acting, Shebada has been the subject of homophobic lyrics from the likes of Bounty Killer, Beenie Man, Vybz Kartel and more dancehall acts.

According to the “Bashment Granny” star, dancehall artists used him as props to make their music sound good. But he flip the script and use those artists as promotion.

“I won’t really say they hate me but they use me as props to make the music sound good and just to gain recognition and hype,” Shebada told Winford. “The first time I heard a song that say ‘bullet in Shebada face’… at first it was frightening but then I looked at it and say if they can promote me then overseas people are going to want to know who they are talking about.”

Shebada, who is widely regarded as gay, says he is able to move around in Jamaica freely without being attacked or harassed. The comedian also explained why he thinks Jamaica is not the most homophobic place on earth. His large following and or fan base mostly women like him and his palys travel all around and are often sold out; Jamaicans tend to take effeminacy wrapped in comedic characters on stage or screen easier than in person in terms of close family or such exhibiting same character traits. Shebada’s predecessor such as Ranny Williams, Oliver Samuels, Maama Man and other effeminate character actors sometime complete with wigs, dresses and exaggerated make up leave audiences in stitches at times.

“Jamaica pretend to be the most homophobic place,” Shebada said. “Because why are they fighting for a visa to go to places where gay is legal… Artists regularly work for promoters who are gay.”

Mr Ramsey has hit a nail on the head there in a sense, the bravado element in dancehall only seeks to reinforce the bad man posture supposedly as the only or main way to counteract the marginalization of males in general from the lower socioeconomic spectrum of society. A well entrenched bravado and insecurity that has played out ever so tendentiously in the above video. The “argue with Hilary” comment @ 0:24 is a hint by Mr Ramsey to my mind of his nickname in certain circles suggesting a powerful woman i.e. Hilary Clinton and the recent US elections.

The man accused Shebada also of offering some sort of oral sex hints/services

Shebada also says he has plans to launch a career in dancehall at the time.

This one looks and sounds like a ‘pot cussing kettle’ joke.

In November this happened:

More anon

Peace & tolerance

H

also see:
Shebada lashes out at 'dancehall hypocrites

Male West Indian Entertainers Donning Female Attire As Part Of Their Acts

From the sublime to the ridiculous 2009

New Age Gays in Dancehall, The Shebada phenomenon 2010

US Promotions Co hits back at "Fire" for Bashment Granny 

Shebada's birthday bash 'drags' in crowd says the Star 

Fake Shebada causes trouble

Thug decoy targeting cruisers again, some take action

The age old problem of so called decoys or ‘double sports’ who are either gays on the downlow, experimenters or opportunists looking to exploit other gay and bisexual men is still with us. As the holiday season is upon us there has been a trend in recent years of this phenomenon of decoys or gay/bisexual men who go berserk in robbing persons even in the middle of sexual liaisons. This latest episode occurred on Saturday December 10 human rights day of all days. Activities tend to increase in the holiday season as trends show over the years as men who would not ordinarily or regularly go outside their sex seeking behaviours then do so even as word also spread by social media of so called successful hunts, penis size notoriety and so on become draw cards or a pull for the curious; another infiltration worry for some existing and ‘expert’ cruisers who do not like or take kindly to a watering down of their once secret spaces. This is not surprising of course as from recorded history this exploitative method in many respects by men to gain material things and so on existed from the Greeks in the socially tolerated phenomenon of pederasty through to present day known as ‘trade’ ‘thots’ ‘heaviots’ and now ‘thuggy.’

Cruisers have already had to contend with reduced spaces over the years in pursuit of the thrill of the manhunt and or hookup from the sharp increase in crimes near or in said zones where gay men gather for quick sex and the on again off again, if not sporadic development coupled with intermittent clashes with other MSM/transgender populations for space use and a feeling of infiltration by those groups. The local authorities have since cleared many often very old spaces in recent months via bulldozers, many other cruisers who use this route to fulfil sex seeking behaviours are either in jail for alleged crimes committed, are scared stiff as times change or are dead after getting involved in gun battles (yes they too do fool around) and others just simply stay away.

A man in his twenties is the latest decoy operative who has been targeting the outdoor cruisers specifically and especially the younger guys found himself the subject of a thrashing of sorts and was chased by two men who stoned him after he tried to rob one of them of a smartphone. One could argue that a smartphone is not an item to have on one’s person when one is on the hunt in certain parts even if it is equipped with tracking capabilities or is locked, the robbers are also savvy and will demand under pain of violence the soon to be former owner of the phone to unlock it or else. The decoy made an approach to one of the newer faced men on the strip in downtown Kingston and demanded he hand over his money and phones at knifepoint. The other man who was nearby and who was supposed to be the victim’s intended hookup at the time intervened, both men tackled the decoy/robber even as he tried to ‘loud up’ the situation alerting passersby on the main road that ‘battyboi dem ova yasso’ (gay men are over here) the phone’s screen unfortunately was damaged in the melee as the men struggled with the knife wielding miscreant to retrieve the phone.

The ‘loud up’ never worked this time around as opposed to previous incidents near or at the same spot, so the two men gave the robber a thrashing according to one of them who I was eventually able to speak to by WhatsApp. They were able to get the phone back and inflict some hits via stoning, they also got the knife as it fell from the would be robber as he made good his escape, this shows the younger cohort of gay and bisexual cruisers are not going to be pushovers by bad eggs within their ranks or decoys from outside who may have an idea of the inner ramblings of gay subculture. In a previous post I had carried a phone robbery matter in the Half Way Tree area by a known gay thug, he has since been arrested alongside other non gay phone robbers and roadside makeshift phone repair men in an elaborate network of robbers and front men the police discovered stretching as far as Manchester and eastwards to St Thomas.

Twice earlier this year there were robbery attempts of a lesser value of money by men who passed through the very spot where this latest incident occurred but hardened cruisers who know full well that some territories are treacherous terrain but still do go there and hope for the best. Cash was taken on both occasions but there was no physical injury, however the handcart lovers matter that was carried on this blog and the subsequent mobbing led to the bulldozing of a section of the area to supposedly stop the ‘battyman dem’ from going there; the spot has a history of gay men and exhibitionists who used the area for years in its various adjustments including a short lived car park activity which was allegedly ordered discontinued by a local don who is now incarcerated aboard.

Let us also recall the soon to be sold old cholera cemetery nearing the Canadian Embassy one of the oldest hookup spots for not only cruisers but commercial sex workers and homeless MSM/transgender as previous posts bring to bear. With the loss of spaces such as this the groups tends to eventually congregate elsewhere, trends suggest that with the reduction of the ‘bathroom’ cruiser phenomenon over the years as well the migration of sorts or crossing over to more hardcore hunting has been on the rise. Some cruisers have taken to going out of town to appease their tastes but that too has come with some challenges to include territorial clashes with other regulars and robberies as well or exposure leading to unneeded or unexpected heat and homophobia.

All I can suggest is that cruisers of one intends to cruise for the holidays be careful as to how and where you choose to be adventurous as tempting as it may be; it may not be worth it in the final analysis. As I used to end my posts back in the day “Be Vigilant, Be Safe”

Peace & tolerance

H

Stabbed for not probing deeply enough!

There is never a dull day in Jamaican and indeed gay life or aspects of it. As the holidays end and life slowly returns to normal as it were the drama, fun and bizarre stories usually come to hand as tongues go a wagging. A previous post showed us the lower socio economic spectrum of some of these sub-cultural matters of handcart lovers who had to beat a hasty retreat in downtown Kingston. A man in his thirties has been doing just that as he is still fuming as he felt he was dissed and then stabbed by the same person as a hook up went bad. Cruisers or at least the street walking/hunting ones and those who do not traverse such scenes consistently usually take the trek in holiday times as Christmas or New Year periods and by the man’s own admission as he felt “thirsty” according to a rather lengthy WhatsAPP thread where the man vented his upset quite openly. The laughter was palpable but the seriousness of the proverbial ‘changeling’ nature of some of this was not lost to us. The group is a mix of cruisers and other men who engage in gay sex with some experience.

This latest episode occurred in the eastern end of the New Kingston area on December 24 around 10pm both men came into contact with each other after picking up on each other (gaydar I imagine) and they both moved to finding a space to explore what they felt. After some negotiations according to the man on the WhatsAPP thread they settled on what was to go down between the two. Such circumstances tend to go beyond the typical as excitement sometimes can get to a sexual fever pitch and other action comes into play. It appears by the man’s own admission he wouldn’t normally do rimming with other men outside of his main partner and or if the recipient is “clean” a long exchange ensued on that diversion much to the laughter (lol and dwl) of some participants.

The men then started to ‘get busy’ and action picked up as both men liked what they saw and the other party seemed “clean” enough. As the rimming phase of the fun came into play the man admitted although he was doing the job he did not probe deeply enough (my words) or in essence penetrate the anus with his tongue by forcing himself passed the sphincter muscle opening. A typical rimming job or ‘fridge cleaning’ or ‘batty-wash’ a term made popular by dancehall artists such as Vybz Kartel and more so Alkaline(aka the rimming DJ) exercise is usually restricted to outside the anus by the opening of the sphincter muscle opening which can be just as pleasurable as actual penile of tongue penetration with the unusual high amounts of membranes at the area. The man admitted in words to the effect that the musty scent devoid of other expected scents was a kind of reassurance that the man was hygienic but no deep probing was done none the less. The man conducting the ‘cleaning of the fridge’ was busy self pleasuring but found himself the subject of demands by the standing recipient who instructed the rimmer to enter more deeply.

The rimmer hesitated for a moment but still proceeded as he was before; only to have the man attempting to forcibly pull on his head and backing up his ass in or on the man’s face. It was there that things got out of place and both men ended up in an altercation. Things cooled but the recipient wanted more or continued action while insisting deep tongue action, when the man suggested what appeared to be partnered masturbation (“shake off”) but the recipient wanted the tongue in his ass and by any means necessary. After some verbal persuasion the man still refused and decided he was leaving the scene but the man would have none of it and another round of a physical struggle ensued so much so that both men ended up on the ground struggling; the man found it funny and in what seems to be playful but rough language used terms such as “come nuh baby” and so on.

But things quickly moved to the next level as the rimmer really lost his cool, in the aforementioned thread “mi haffi fix de boi” (I have to fix the boy) and there was where the knife was drawn by the other man and the struggle went on. It resulted in a minor stab would on the right hand of the former rimmer from a ratchet knife the other man had and a banger phone that had fallen from the man to the ground was smashed under foot as they tussled. The men parted and an argument continued until the stab victim used a rag he had in his back pocket to wrap the wound and stop the bleeding. Then the unexpected came as the rimmer made his way to the main road he was outed so to speak as the exiting perpetrator pointed him out to passersby. Talk about dangerous closet queens who can be more dangerous than homophobes indeed. Both men then went their separate ways but he says he knows where the man hails which may suggest this may not be over by a long shot.

This one reminds me of an older case in the early 2000s where a similar matter occurred but it did not have the knife play element to it. There seems to be a string of newbies in town who have been noticed by older or practiced cruisers (the more adventurous ones that is); a reader who identifies as a cruiser suggested that I needed to differentiate the types of hunters as he does not do masculine spaces such as old buildings, abandoned garages or so on as I had hinted to in a previous post but he is a more plaza operative type or lavatory visitor, problem is such spaces have been rapidly disappearing in the last decade. This loss of space is also playing a role in how the population’s sex seeking behaviours play out literally. The old remaining section of the cholera cemetery for example where that now infamous emaciated HIV positive gay homeless man photo was taken is up for major development, bushing has removed the hiding/secrecy element, male commercial sex workers, homeless MSM/transgender and cruisers have all been impacted as the government and proposed developers are at odds as to the way forward alongside police patrols and local municipality clearances.

Increased police patrols generally also have had an impact of some of this which was kind of surprising to me when this matter came to hand. Post that townhall meeting with the outgoing Police Commissioner where he addressed the homeless gays in the Shoemaker Gully also had made the area off limits as the cruising community watch these things and plan their routes and hookup activities.

Happy hunting and just be vigilant and safe to include reading the man before you both get down or if it is a group even more reading is important.

Peace & tolerance

H

Handcart lovers escaped a mobbing as cruiser challenges continue

handcart examples

As parts of Kingston unravels with crime in recent months, the homeless MSM/transgender populations in New Kingston clash with cruisers and the police pressure that has intensified in recent days as hinted to in a previous post on my Homeless Awareness Month in this month November some happenings have come to a head. The tie-ins have several consequences as outcomes. The stepped up crime as recent as last night as the debate on local government elections pre-elections debate ensued much to the annoyance of many including me, there was nothing of substance and indeed homelessness citywide were nowhere present, despite the present mayor of Kingston claimed she is concerned about homelessness specific to MSM/transgender and played the victim card earlier this year that she was threatened after she expressed so called for the persons at the old Cholera Cemetery or near to it and the Shoemaker Gully which has re-emerged as home even after the clearance exercise in December 2014 by the police.

Cruisers who normally traverse those areas for hook-ups have simply stopped or slowed greatly with alternatives being employed; as the areas are crowded with not only the homeless but a sharp increase in female commercial sex workers, boys on bikes robbing high end phones and wireless Bose headsets, cash and other valuables. Outcomes for such robbery demands not being met is often greeted with knife cuts or a beating for that matter, that occurred in September by the darkened area at the Brooklyn Supermarket area on Constant Spring Road and the Kings Plaza parking lot nearing Popeye’s eatery. At least one of the accused phone robbers has been held by cops and is linked to a network of phone repairers and sellers as far as Spanish Town and May Pen. Other parts of town are also having issues; a group of 3 persons allegedly were forced out of an empty house along the stretch to the Police Officers Club on Hope Road some weeks ago as angry citizens were furious that persons were invading their otherwise peaceful middle class community.

East Kingston nearing the Jamaica Urban Transit Company, JUTC depot for example also was saw an alleged moving up of a couple persons who use the area for hook-ups catering to mobile clients looking for a unique sexual experience in the outdoors as the beach/sea is nearby to the electric company plant; an old haunt for gay men long before such geographical changes had come to be. Unconfirmed reports also suggest a stabbing incident (yet again) in October by the infamous “Boil up” affectionate named as it is the actual sewerage treatment plant nearby whose operation has a large water body tank that bubbles up, gay men from all over, of I should say men who have sex with men in some way (mostly partnered masturbation or oral sex as anal penetration may not be convenient). The interruptions of this subgroup’s sex seeking behaviour are something that requires far more study and unpacking.

Handcart man haffi run f idem life

Two shirtless men according to one eyewitness who also happens to be a cruiser and who was present nearby had to beat a hasty retreat as happened before to others at the same spot over the years. Last Saturday at around 6am at a popular spot nearing West Kingston the men reported met in the space and as per usual pass-throughs would also be there, hence the eyewitness’ ability to have seen the matter from his vantage point. The men had moved to a more secluded area and were about to get down but for some strange reason a four man group of persons entered the space and “loud up” the men.

“Bossy de man dem come in wid cutlass dawggy, mi just hide out inna the bush part deh weh nobody caan see mi.” (My friend the men came in with machete and I just hide in the bushes nearby where nobody couldn’t see me.) The angry men gave a short chase out of the spot of coverage out into the open with both targets went in opposite direction, one handcart which was parked adjacent in front the newer fish and charcoal market was identified as belonging to one of the men; the crowd gathered at that point felt justified in seizing the cart and some suggesting it should be destroyed; the handcart was preserved none the less.

The witness when pressed over the phone as I spoke to him thanks to a reliable contact said he remained hidden for some time afterwards and left the scene some time later:

“Mi wait and two other man dem did pass thru from the other side of the road dem come in, dem never know wah did a gwaan until dem hear the crowd a burn out battyman ..........” (I waited and two other guys came in but from the other direction, they did not know what was going on until they heard the loud voices with [burn out] homophobic remarks) The witness and I concur surmises that some party of the group may have entered the spot for maybe to use the place as a toilet as has happened before and may have seen suspicious behaviour, given the history of the place that is highly possible. Safety for MSM or the adventurous is a do so at your own risk issue and shows the challenges for persons in the sub-group who cannot live openly are forced to employ other pleasurable sex seeking behaviours; they attract other men who have accommodation but want something outside the box sexually as well. This is not limited to adults but also teenagers who may be experimenting as they grow into their sexuality or just curious at the time. An unconfirmed case at an irrigation waterway in St Catherine occurring in October as well had two male teens clashing with other schoolboys at a regular swimming spot after they were caught fondling each other.

Thankfully in above cases no serious violence was meted out to the parties involved but it raises safety issues, choice selection for cruisers and other issues with the psychology of human sexuality.

Peace & tolerance

H

Cruiser robbed by mystery man at gun point

A series of robberies in the Half Way Tree area as far north as the Marketplace, as far east as the Cholera cemetery then south eastwards as Waterloo Road and so on has had many wondering what the devil is happening. The robberies tend to occur during the week, at early dusk or as late as midnight. One time popular cruiser popularly known as ‘One seed’ due to his testicular appendage was the latest victim of the mystery bleached skin robber who has what appears to be a gun; I ran into him nearby as I was having drinks with some brethren by a popular bar on Molynes. Apart from targeting gay men looking for a hookup around town, as he seems to be aware of the spots he also has robbed reportedly women who traverse the aforementioned zones at nights as some persons may walk to Half Way Tree going about their business to possibly conserve on bus fare or just to enjoy a stroll. Purses, phones and cash reportedly have been taken by the suspect with an aggressive strategy but many suspect the gun looking item often disguised in a plastic bag according to ‘One seed’ maybe empty and there is talk of a beat down or entrapment of sorts by some of the guys to get him. The police informally are aware of the matter as well; a recent heist at Brooklyn Supermarket car park that is un-fenced where a woman was the victim was passed on to members at the nearby police precinct.

Friday July 29 was the One seed event just by the dimly lit section of Constant Spring Road between the said Brooklyn Supermarket and Kings Plaza, both old haunts for years but disabled after the adding of the vegetable, organic food store nearby and stepped up police patrols back then. Around 11pm Onie as he is also affectionately known was making his way down to Half Way Tree via Constant Spring Road as he approached the Brooklyn Supermarket area still dimly lit he was approached by the man who was walking in the opposite direction. According to Onie the man’s face was visible and he demanded money and so on, Onie being aggressive himself proceeded to tackle the miscreant but was surprised by the item appearing to be a gun in which time Onie kept his cool. Onie only gave him the small amount of cash he had on him but like any smart cruiser one hides more cash elsewhere on your person just in case.

Onie said he felt the gun was empty so he decided to tackle the man and was successful in throwing him to the ground, inflicting several blows. The man then made his escape complete with a litany of threats and expletives. Several female commercial sex workers also have been complaining of this bleached character that even some of the newer pimps have been taking care to be there for the ladies. Given the recent sharp increase of the numbers as well the man may be tempted to make repeat visits seeing no direct police interventions seem effective thus far. The man is also said to arrive on a bicycle which makes his escape easier. He is said to be bisexual as he has had some sexual encounter with men in the area and is said to be hailed originally from St Thomas but stays in Kingston, more is being gathered on the man.

This series of incidents have the hallmarks of the old problems of homelessness, desperation and miscreant behaviour; the unravelling of the lotto scamming illegal activity especially in western Jamaica with the corresponding spillage of newer faces into the population is cause for concern yet still after all these years. MSM/Transgender persons are not immune to the issues. It was one of the reasons why the Kingston populations increased exponentially as other stigma driven cases also add to the numbers. A murder for example of a sixteen year old fast rising lotto kingpin though not gay on July 3 in St James at a birthday party according to sources has had a ripple effect in the MSM world in that part of the island. The teen has stopped going to school and was integral in recruiting young gay men as the feeling in some circles they are more effective as closing deals with ‘clients’ given the perceived clearer speaking voice, cadence of speech and so on. The murdered teen did not hand over money as was expected that he had collected on time and in the agreed amounts so he paid for it with his life; with his demise all others who were or are associated with his outfits are seen as persona non grata which in turn leads to forced evictions (two reports thus far) by rival outfits.

Investigations are ongoing by the police and foreign agents who are on the island as evidenced in a recent court case in the Half Way Tree parish court where FBI and other persons were present, six persons are being tried under pain of extradition if found guilty, a roadblock has come as defense council has asked or challenged the legality of foreign agents involved in local raids. I fear another wave of incoming as occurred in 2008 – 10 with the subsequent spin offs.

If you’re a cruiser just be careful friends, maybe you have to curtail your routes.

Peace & tolerance

H

Cruisers continue to bemoan the loss of 'space'

In previous posts I had looked at the travails of mostly the more adventurous Kingston, St Catherine & to a lesser extent St Ann cruising populations, geographical changes predominantly have a direct impact on how their or I should say our sex seeking behaviours are influenced; although I have been so busy I am less active these days but the fellas keep me up to date hence this post. I like writing these posts as it usually attracts some other interest(s) or the curious (smile), despite our unique homophobia we have found ways to survive; meanwhile interventions by the local authorities, continued clashes with displaced and homeless transgender & MSM, crime and police operations, decoys who know the system and use it to rob or abuse if not blackmail persons and so on are the reasons for the decline of activities. Since the murder of one of the regulars known as Frankie at the infamous old haunt at ‘Boil Up’ near to the old ‘Back-a-wall’ in 2015 has had a deleterious impact on happenings, the police intervention with the local authorities of the homeless cohort in January of this year again has had some impact as the relocation to other sites which influences the clashes, especially the more hyper-masculine types.

A nasty fight in April I gather (corroborated by one of my buddies) over a spot by two men who were inadvertently going after the same prey as it were has not helped as a faction of sort has since developed with friends of both men have been in a standoff. Where on side sees the other resistance comes out sometimes in ‘louding up’ the opposing side representative in a bid to stop him from entering the space in what is a scare tactic under fear of a homophobic threat made so by finger pointing. Inevitably the space is there but is hesitantly accessed in fear of exposure, so avoidance of the use of the space thought available is the more acceptable choice.

In the last couple of years we have lost some good long time spaces either due to local authority interventions, development work such as highways in St Catherine where a popular waterway once known for some good early morning hook-ups and dick gazing is all but gone. Former cruisers who now live abroad still inquire about the space and are saddened that the good times are since near dead. A robbery of a regular taxi driver in 2014 who occasionally goes on the prowl has had some impact to this day as though he was not harmed his car was taken, scrapped and burnt out; many of the brothers have simply stopped altogether attending that stretch of space nearing the said waterway. Forgive me but I cannot be specific in terms of locations such as not to dissolve the safety aspects of this matter. The apparent near miss of a gross indecency charge of two men in a car (yet again) downtown Kingston at the waterfront is also an issue for some; even as downtown becomes busy commercially again. The sale and refurbishing of the former Oceana Hotel for example, the nearby Pirates Cove (as exposed by the cops and mistakes made by male CSW and cruisers - a unique comingling of said groups)

See: Pirates' Cove named as base for "homosexual prostitutes" KSAC asked to address homelessness
has had some impact, the discontinuation of the ferry service to Port Royal too so many years ago was one of the first signs of major changes to come as downtown in fact internationally waterfronts usually have some gay cruising elements operating there. The police are becoming more aware of once clandestine hook-ups have also impacted on the loss of space and repeated mistakes and or discoveries of such effects changes. Mistakes and challenges also can come from within such as a previous post highlighted where a man suffered a broken arm even after some fun the perpetrator just snapped in terms of guilty feelings thinking he was led into doing something wrong despite the fact he was in the space and actively sought out the other man.

The ‘bathroom’ cruiser who seems to operate on a different psychological trajectory; they seem to be more addicted to such venues more so than those of us who prefer more open spaces, they have been at a distinct disadvantage over the years as such venues have simply disappeared by virtue of security being added at their entrances and the vending of toiletries also at the doorways. Mistakes in that sub group also have had impacts in the negative realm as with each instance security features are beefed up. I can remember the Island Life Mall fiasco in 2005 and again in 2008 in the male bathroom stall where the tabloids had a field day and the now carefully monitored LOJ Plaza in Spanish Town with even a mobbing in the early 2000s. The plaza or shopping centre cruising guy though is better placed as he is usually skilled or adept in observing and successfully picking up his hunt more so than those of us who prefer the rarer spaces including old buildings for such engagements. The need for the less talk but a spontaneous quickie is the main driver for people like me than a public link then going to a space or home. To have a dick quick is the key in whatever form, mouth, hand or ass if possible.

The occasional exhibitionist masturbator in spaces perused by cruisers although he can be seen as another type have made mistakes as well as evidenced in an unconfirmed report of one such incident nearing the old railway station in February this year, he was chased away by men who were alerted by the person who saw him in action. The oldest spot and once a favourite of mine in my younger years is also all but gone as squatters have since moved on whilst ‘mini-extortionists’ have turned the rest of the space into a paid parking lot where persons going to the shopping district park and pay in exchange for ‘security’ for their vehicles. Western Jamaica has seen its share of issues with migration seen as an option for one good brethren and fuck buddy of mine; yes we do travel to other sites other than one’s regular haunts. One thing that occupies my mind and is yet to be properly explained is why it is MSM who are not in known monogamous relationships are the archetypes who engaging cruising as their sex seeking options?

I am still also concerned about the HIV risk involved when it comes to the aforementioned nonverbal spontaneous hook-up and hence the more the missing risk assessment is present per situation and overall in the space is the more chances of HIV transmission is possible. Barebacking although partnered masturbation is the preferred method for safety and time purposes is not a new phenomenon in such spaces as it throws out the distraction in the minds of some, especially MSM who refuse to see themselves as homosexuals or bisexuals but still engage in some sort of same gender sex. Revealing a condom or even mentioning it in the moment can and has had disastrous responses from the partner including violence; he may not want to have his fantasy however short lived and it seems such reminders or interventions is too much of a reminder he is about to do some ass or vice versa in real terms.

I guess the fellas will have to make do and just adjust as we always do, one thing with us in Jamaica and a trait we do not often acknowledge generally we are good at being resilient on many fronts. Safe and happy hunting my brothers and please be vigilant.

Peace & tolerance

H

also see:

Gay Cruising misunderstood ..... from GLBTQJA 

More snags for the cruising community in 2013

Attempted murder of Portmore teacher being investigated

According to media reports and corroborated by a police source a male teacher residing in Portmore is in hospital recovering from an incident by Bayside then Rodney’s arms in a bizarre sequence of events.

Friday last April 1st All Fools Day around 4pm the teacher accompanied a man to Rodney’s Arms for reasons unclear in St Catherine where there was an argument which quickly turned violent; after a tussle the teacher sustained a wound to the lower body and then in an unexpected twist the man used a SUV to hit the teacher to the ground and drove away, the SUV was the teacher’s vehicle and it was found abandoned by the Bayside round-about.

The teacher sustained several cuts, bruises and was dazed as curious onlookers assisted him as the SUV sped away according to preliminary information ascertained at the scene of the incident. Even then members of the public were speculating the motive and the strangeness of the sequence of events; one nearby vendor was most expressive according to my source and stopped short of calling it a gay issue.

The suspected motive is one of ‘crime of passion’ a default conclusion police and others easy resort to when men are involved in unusual appearing matters; as is being circulated in police circles according to my source. The teacher has not been forthcoming with the matter too much as yet as he is securing the services of an attorney before proceeding. Others strongly suspect that it is a date gone horribly wrong as they often do and lead to public spats as evidenced only last weekend outside a popular New Kingston strip club car park nearby. Two alleged lesbians had a knock down dragged out fight complete with a captive audience of mostly men cheering and offering learned commentary related to boxing skills and the ladies supposed masculine mannerisms.

The aforementioned vendor’s comments bordering on homophobia is an indication to me that some Jamaicans still just dismiss genuine homophobic matters as nothing more than crimes of passion and of lovers supposedly quarrelling with each other leading to fights and murder. 

elsewhere the said story is reported sensationally as:
Gay principal Penis chop off  by lover in Portmore – SUV was used to run him over

A homosexual rendezvous ended with one man suffering severe injuries to his penis after it was allegedly bitten by his lover in Portmore, St Catherine on Friday night.

The incident happened along the Green Bay Main Road close to the Rodney’s Arms Restaurant.

The victim, who is a primary school principal, was seen bleeding profusely on the roadway and the police were alerted. When the cops arrived they were informed that the victim and another man went to the location and an argument developed between them. The argument turned bloody and the man was savagely bitten on his penis by his aggrieved lover.

But his woes did not end there as his white Mitsubishi Sports Utility Vehicle (SUV) was used to run him over.

The vehicle was found abandoned at the Bay Side round-a-bout and is now parked at the Bridgeport Police Station.

He was assisted to the Spanish Town Hospital by the police where he was admitted in serious condition. Doctors are reportedly trying to repair the damage he suffered to his member.

The Greater Portmore Police have confirmed the incident but reported that the victim has not pressed charges or offered any information

Police have confirmed that the area close to Rodney’s Arms is a regular haunt for homosexuals who visit the area to make out.

meanwhile:

the home where the murder occurred

A report on CVM TV only some days ago of a chopping matter involving one Donovan White aka Phil in Montego Bay brought such suspicions front and center, the roommate was interviewed and his every action including the tears or lack thereof in sufficient numbers was used to dismiss his sorrow; while reiterating an old adage that gay rights are not to come as gays are lying about murders when it is us (gays) who are killing each other off in jealousy. Sad that even as details are scarce profiling has led to stigma. As if to suggest jealousy is far deeper in same gender relationships and liaisons versus heterosexual unions.

Bayside Portmore however has factored before in public spats playing out for some reason, maybe the said location of Rodney’s Arms is a popular space for fish, other sea food and entertainment devoid of stigma oddly enough given the myriad of persons who use the space.

In a previous post I had reported on such a matter:

Reports suggests that on Saturday July 10 around 2am in the morning a man who was coming from an event on the strip was on his way home according to him. He reportedly saw a motorvehicle parked on the strip with a female allegedly in the passenger side of the car, the man knowing that in that vicinity the commercial sex is done he approached the “woman” to conduct business.

They negotiated the deal for sexual favours in exchange for an agreed price, he was seen entering the vehicle by eyewitnesses where the apparent agreed sexual favours were performed by the CSW on the man in the form of oral sex. It was after the act was completed and he requested additional services that he discovered she was in fact a “he” as the services he requested require penetrative sex which the cross dresser could not fulfill.

An argument ensued where upon hearing the crossdressers voice it was clear she was a man in drag, by which time stones were hurled into the vehicle damaging it. The drag queen also defended herself by hurling stones as well and chasing him away. The man subsequently tried reporting the matter to the cops but was himself held and maybe charged for malicious destruction of property resulting from the incident.

see more:

CROSS DRESSING DRAMA IN PORTMORE 2010

So many are in train and tracking but sometimes they die after a while with no good follow up to determine the findings of legal actions pursued against accused.

Peace and tolerance

H

Oh those ‘str8’ bi-curious boys & their emotional baggage

I have to agree with my friend who said words to the effect as in the post’s title it is on rare occasions one run into men who are supposedly on the fringes on the continuum of homosexuality and experimentation or exploration. They are ever so cautious yet defensive especially when it comes to role play in sex; oh no no bottoming, ‘man a man, man a nuh oman’ (I am a man not a woman and therefore won’t bow) or play a passive role, it is just too much to play the sexual role of a woman hence all other kinds of responses and masking comes forth. I have spoken to such experimentation and insecurity before in previous posts such as a recent run in by an old cruiser brethren of mine who sustained a broken arm after a tussle with another man after a brief sexual encounter; yet the man literally freaked out that he erred in doing the act and then sought to blame the very brethren he just enjoyed a partnered masturbation session with.

I met a fella on adam4adam recently, yes I use it like some of us do and then pretend they don’t acting all decent and stuff; we know very well that that site is still the main hookup centre apart from social media; in meeting the dude in stealth online we finally exposed our true identities after some extended communication although he wanted a more instant approach based on my profile pictures of my dick and ass; no face pictures are up as is customary for many Jamaican members. Such anonymity has other implications of trust, deception an such that I won’t get into now but suffice it to say this lead up to the actual hookup was relatively smooth. We met face to face finally after several whatsapp and A4A messaging and I liked what I saw physically; frankly I was not interested in his mind for say as his dick photo was what pulled me into him. The 36 year old was coy pretentiously at first but soon opened up and expressed that he liked me as I was not girly (the first sign of insecurity and policing of attitudes or even aesthetics) I am very comfortable in my own skin and it took years to get there so I get very careful in navigating hook-ups or socializing with men who express such scrutiny.

We met eventually and finally decided to do the deed by the usual you show me yours I show you mine lead in then the exploration; bearing in mind I have not used A4A for a while but met my hook-ups at parties I DJ at or repeat sessions with trusted buddies and cruising catches. As this is not my Xrated blog I won’t get into too much sexual detail but use your imagination as if you were with a man in a sexual encounter. The shocker however to me was he did not want to go all the way but wanted me to play a full passive or receptive role (as a woman) bearing in mind I am fully versatile; although he described himself as gay (not sure he understand sexuality) he refused to reciprocate in certain respects as he saw it effectively a feminizing is too much for him and he was not willing to budge any in terms of exploring the options and feelings. His defence afterwards was he was only ‘passing through’ a term I have had said to me repeatedly with previous hook-ups. In supposedly ‘passing through’ he may be implying he is not ‘gay’ in the true sense of the word as homosexual as that has too much attached to it in terms of effeminacy; remembering he said I was not ‘girly’ a frightening issue for many men who have sex with men but are on the proverbial downlow or ‘passing through’ types.

So in ‘passing through’ he is not obligated to go all the way by engaging in flip flop suggestion or request. Sexual contact must therefore be limited and left to the hetero-normative sex with strict roles carefully observed in bed and everyone must stay in their place; no touching beyond the norm or exploring certain parts of the body in the fondling process. I have met men who even literally define or dictate the boundaries of where I can go or touch including the feared wandering of fingers and hands by the anus or butt cheeks; one guy told me some years ago that my hands must not pass his waist but I can do anything with the front end.

Back to this present guy, in the after conversation surprisingly he was patient to conduct as other men similar to him I have met just hit it and quit it afterwards with no extended talk as the ‘man a man’ (I am a man) mantra takes precedence and real men do not talk too much like women. He said he always had feelings for men but kept it real quiet and had a girlfriend up until some time ago while stoutly declaring that she was not aware but I have no way of proving that. Cautious approaches to sex with defined or prescribed activities/demands and navigating socialization is a clear sign to me of the bi-curious types; but I have mastered the art of working my way around them. He declared that we cannot meet too often (the ‘pass through’ business again!) and that he doesn’t really see himself as ‘gay’ in other words by virtue of having limited sexual contact with the same sex in his eyes he is not gay; by virtue of having a woman or being attracted to women he is not gay as well (there is something called bisexuality); by virtue of playing a traditional hetero-masculine sexual role albeit with another man he is a man’s man and so being ‘gay’ is some journey to feminization and a weakening of his manhood. These are real fears that have had an impact on how men who have sex men interact and even fall out with disastrous consequences at times often seen as crimes of passion when they go public. Luckily I got one of the docile ones (whew!) but who knows? A friend of mine had an experience some years back where he had to literally run away from a hotel he had just had a not session with as the guy literally changed guilt blaming my bro that he made him do something he was not into really but he had a hard-on none the less and was clearly interested in what was going on but did nothing to stop it in the heat of the moment.

I would love a study or an expert to help me grapple with how men who have sex with men just can change their stance or personas literally especially after sex. Masking or self denial even in the face of just having sex with another man is baffling to me. I had jokingly come up with a name some years ago in an old blog post referencing a similar change of persona matter; I had named it P.E.A.D post erotic arousal disorder; 

see: P.E.A.D a man's attitude changes after sex 2008 from sister blog GLBTQ Jamaica

I am not a psychologist so to have ‘disorder’ in the name is just for emphasis as I and others via reports have had run ins with men who just literally change right before your eyes after sexual activity. After sex guilt often seems to be the evidential outcome of such change and is usually more visible in hyper-masculine types as opposed to semi or fully effeminate men; as if they are helpless to pursue their true urges but when they do the feeling of shame and committing a sin of some sort sets in.

I expressed that we should keep in touch and he agreed after a short ponder; he sounds willing to engage outside of the hook-up imperative but definitely not a relationship. Others would just meet skeet and leet lol after the wipe up in the comings and goings of the hook-up.

Nuff love.

Peace & tolerance

H

also see from sister blog GLBTQ Jamaica: Dubious Adam4Adam Profiles, Unscrupulous Sports, Gay Imposters, Robberies & Safety ..

Modern gay love, dating apps & deception wrapped in homophobia

Orgies, Intruders & Safety

St Ann cruiser’s near miss & a sprained arm

A longtimer in his late forties (name withheld by request) in the cruising business is now nursing a sprained arm after an encounter with one of those unsure brothers who seemingly according to the man is on the fence when it comes to men and sexual activity. I dread these kinds of men who can literally change their persona in a heartbeat especially after the fun is over (cum) and he is back to earth so to speak; it is as if he has lost all desire after ejaculation or high arousal and he probably feels ‘dirty’ and he blames the other man of inveigling him into sex or he has a guilt trip that he just did something wrong (a kind of I can’t help myself remorse) as he was trying to ‘change’ as it were from having gay feelings to heterosexual ones in terms of sex.

December 2015 was the time of the incident at a popular hunting spot nearing Ocho Rios close to the beach, in my more naughtier years lol I have had some quick encounters there; the fellow cruiser made his way there for a potential hook-up and met the man turned perpetrator, the man is also a repeat visitor and is known for his gifted endowment; both had made the move to commence some fun and the quick business was eventually dealt with; the men walked to another location and started a conversation which is not the norm in those outdoor circumstances but none the less it occurred; usually persons leave the scene and go their separate ways with a sort of ‘next time’ expectation resonated in their minds. In a radical turn around by the perpetrator in terms of his demeanor he started to accuse the not yet injured cruiser of forcing him into sex and he was not happy from the get go of their encounter and he was uncomfortable with sex with men and that it was a sin etc; this was said despite no such feelings were expressed in the heat of the moment and fun.

My cruiser colleague in his report by phone continued that he found it puzzling as to the reaction by the man; so he decided to walk him out and leave him alone as he the cruiser concluded the man was confused he could not be bothered to engage that despite the man was known by himself and others on the ‘network.’ It was at that juncture things got physical as the man felt aggrieved saying among other things (choice expletives) he felt disrespected seeing the cruiser was walking him out or not responding as he wanted him to regarding the discomfort he felt albeit after a sexual encounter. The men fought briefly and in the tussle a piece of board lying nearby was used by the ‘confused’ man to inflict blows on the victim in the case.

He sustained minor injuries and a sprained arm after all was said and done, this is not the first time I have heard reports of such clashes with men in the cruising world and subsequent physical injury. On my Wordpress blog I carried a similar story some years ago as well, funny how history seems to repeat itself and such encounters are so similar with violence factoring in most cases I am aware of.

Also see: GAY CRUISER SUFFERS BROKEN ARM AFTER TUSSLE 2011

There was similar matter nearing the old cholera cemetery in 2007 on West King’s House road when there was an active cruising group there some of whom have moved on or migrated to other lands; a man was set upon by another even after both men engaged in a partnered masturbation exercise; upon demanded payment of some kind not met the perpetrator reacted violently but the victim so to speak manage to escape.

The Sandy Gully back in the late nineties when it featured as a site for homeless MSM, commercial sex workers and cruisers sharing areas along the strip had an incident that ended up with man stabbed and hospitalized for weeks with the perpetrator set upon by other men at Springs Plaza by the KFC store when that part of town was a hangout. The victim was eventually aided by then community divo matriarch so to speak Donald Thompson aka Fay Donaway who had an apartment nearby by Gore Terrace.

The present incident continued:

Things eventually cooled after a stone throwing response from the injured cruiser so as to defend himself and chase away the perpetrator. The man has also threatened he intends to out my cruiser colleague if he is seen in the town or its environs to which the cruiser reminded him that they were both the ‘same thing’ meaning he was gay too so he should not pretend he is heterosexual in public to deflect scrutiny if and when he attempts to out the cruiser. Again I am amazed at how some brothers just can literally change in a moment’s notice.

I have had my run-ins too way back in the day when I used to feature a spot downtown; one of the longest serving haunts until the geographical changes that came to erase it. I was forced to defend myself after a guy who I just jacked off with wanted money and attempted to rob me as well of cash and such. Thankfully I am able to handle myself and put a spoke in his wheel with his intent; another time I was forced to wrestle with a thug who claimed he wanted to penetrate me at any cost to which I refused to give in and like the previous reference he was surprised at my response as I was able to inflict a few blows to his face in defence. From that day onwards he has a long term bitterness towards me and has even attempted to impugned all kinds of allegations on the street about me. That has since died down and he claims he has gone back to women as it were.

The perils of the ‘hunt’ are numerous outside of ‘confused’ or unsure men who seemingly cannot seem to resist their urge for some sexual play with a man but are conflicted with their own inner values and self awareness/acceptance. Robbery to is also a major challenge as some men use luring other men into encounters with a view to perpetrate a heist of some kind; sometimes under threat of being publicly labelled as gay so as to cause a mob to follow and such.

My cruiser brethren says he is going to be more circumspect from now on and avoid that area for now so as not to run into the ‘confused’ man.

Peace & tolerance

H