In previous posts I had attempted to address the business of the ‘couch surfing’ as temporary solutions that go bad or a hidden agenda revealing itself. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month here and on sister blog GLBTQ Jamaica and while I started off on a more biblical note this year often used as justification for pastoral abuse or children other forms of assault are unfortunately ongoing. It gets more complicated when it has men who have sex men involved either as the impacted individual or the perpetrator.
One cannot simply just walk into a police station and report that he was raped or sexually assaulted as the buggery law or other legislation might kick in which may also see the ‘victims’ finding themselves detained. The laughter alone from personnel is enough and or dismissals and humiliation in the precinct can be a major turn off. That would also depend on what is unearthed in the investigations and what content the reporting party placed in the police report. Any hint of anal penetration whether by an object or penis or a fingers (grievous sexual assault charge) can be problematic on many fronts; on the part of the police suspected illegality cannot go un-responded to in the precinct of a police station at that; then there is the business of gathering the evidence for the case by way of the physical examination of the parties which can get sticky if there was shower taken or any other anal health or hygienic course by the receptive partner in particular to raise the suspicion on penetration. If there was no strong tearing or scarring of the area or the sphincter then the level of suspicion will be lesser still or if things such as Preparation H creams or PH adjusting enema or fleet product were used after the act to cool down burning or itching after the fact.
How many stories one has heard of persons sleeping at night only to find themselves with a ‘heavy weight’ on top of them; tabloids such as the Star News and the now defunct XNews were good at that and some sort of non-consensual sex occurs, from the non penetrative or missionary sex or partnered masturbation to the perpetrators pleasure or full on anal rape. The misguided or sensational tabloid reporting may be a function of ignorance of MSM relational matters I suppose. Some have actually argued that non-penetrative sex acts albeit without consent such as intercrural sex cannot be seen as assault or abuse but often such persons leave out the non consent component. It is as if there is a hierarchy for tolerated abuse or it may be justified as a form of payment for whatever the assistance that is being offered.
Unless the aggrieved party is prepared to go all the way with the case despite the challenges then like others before they will simply retreat often into silence or with knowledge of a few close friends. Psycho-sexual interventions can be sought by referrals but the legal side of it all is a problem yet still; the attempts to have the buggery law decriminalised to include the rape component linked to non-consent and ages of consent is still stalling despite the middle of the road sensible suggestion. The question therefore is how many MSM have been assaulted by more privileged men who exploit their vulnerabilities?
Those power differentials are a main factor for abused to continue to get abuse and apart from some physical retaliation or running from the situation as mentioned above the former can and has led to murders within the MSM community. A few such murders have been seen as ‘crimes of passion’ more so by misguided antigay groups/activists to justify their hate campaigns without understanding or seeking to enlighten themselves or the social constructs in our world; they pray on the national ignorance nationally on male homosexuality in particular.
It is the retaliation of such abuse sometimes outside of robberies, so called crimes of passion and or jealousies between lovers and genuine homophobic cases that have led to some public murders in times past which further colours the whole affair of public perception of male homosexual life.
The business of consent is crucial in the shelter assistance gift being used as a guise to assault persons, if it were a case of the parties consenting and the soon to be assisted or even during the aid one is approached and there is agreement then we are dealing with a horse of a different colour. But to allow persons to relatively get comfortable and then seek to abuse them is just plain wrong whether there is anal penetration is involved; it is the principle of the thing that is important. But what to do about those who prey on weaker or desperate men for purposes of control? To bring them to book when it involves adults is difficult; obviously with a minor there are adequate laws including the Child Care & Protections Act and Carnal Abuse legislation.
More to come
Peace & tolerance