I will attempt at offering some suggestions by drawing from some previous posts as well involving elated cases and reports, also see my post on tips from sister blog GLBTQ Jamaica for this year: Coming Out Day 2016 ........ some tips
plus:
Facebook & unintentional outings to family members .....
some tips on editing your personal settings
Go to:
Apps and WebsitesGo to:
Control what gets shared with apps, games and websites........ then select Edit Settings
then go to:
How people bring your info to apps they usePeople who can see your info can bring it with them when they use apps. Use this setting to control the categories of information people can bring with them......then edit settings .... the following should appear
Then deselect the persons or relationships etc you want to be seen or not to be seen, the groups etc you are in. That is of course if you had set up a family and relationship group apart from your friends list.
Also on ones profile one can customize the viewers of posts at any given time, it might take a few more seconds to do so but it is worth the wait, that is also of course if you are willing to go through all that.
some control can also be here as well:
select the last option and you can literally type a name or names of persons who may want to block generally while using the above to control what goes fully public or to friends only etc.
Some previous safety suggestions that appeared on that June 2011 entry on hookups are posted are below:
Please bear in mind the following if you or someone you know is planning a face to face meeting following an continued e-lationship
- Make sure the profiler has a real photo or photos of themselves
- Ask questions about them, get to know as much as possible as timely as possible
- Establish telephone contact as early as you see fit
- Listen for any change in mood, tone or information shared over time
- Keep the e-lationship going with regular interactions to pick up any changes as well
- Archive or save suspicious exchanges as you see fit
- Avoid instant hook-ups without first developing some rapport in the e-lationship
- Tell a close friend where and when you are going to meet an online friend for the first time
- Develop a trend in communicating for e.g same times if possible per day for chatting
- If you decide to meet find an open public area as best as possible, and decide how to behave in that space to avoid any unsuspecting onlookers who may deduce it's a gay link up
- Decide on clothing and colour or change colours previously agreed to if you are not sure of the individual
- Study your surroundings when there and get there early (as this young man did)
- Plan your possible route(s) of escape if necessary
- Have a weapon of some sort or maze that can create a distraction then escape as quickly as possible
- Have a trusted friend accompany you if possible and have them away from the actual meeting spot but make sure they can see you
- Make a call if needed to the person(s) who followed you and keep the line open so they can hear your conversation and call for help elsewhere if needed
- Set your Facebook profile to "Friends Only" as under "Friends of Friends" all other persons can see you
- If you are in a group and are active you may turn off the feature where non friends can send you a message or see you photos
- Use only a sensible face picture as your profile thumbnail so as to avoid stalking
The problematic adding of persons to groups without any restrictive action or vetting that action is also of concern as that has also caused some accidents for persons as sometimes especially if the group is an open one ones activity may appear on their wall viewable by all on their friend's list.
Tinker with the settings and see the ones that suit you best if you do not want to be exposed. Just some suggestions friends.
If all else fails just open another account that they do not know of and do your business.
Peace & tolerance
H
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