Teen forced to change schools following outing incident

A seventeen year old male student formerly of a Kingston school has been relocated to another institution since late last year as a matter arising out of an impromptu situation involving a male teacher who he had a crush on at the previous school. As boys are taught not to be emotional or affectionate towards male adults the student said he struggled with the attraction towards the teacher for months and although he also saw him as a mentor he was also aroused many times. 

Often times we see stories in the tabloids about inappropriate teacher student relationships and we are led to believe that it was the teachers’ fault in approaching the student, maybe it is so but each case MUST be taken on their own merit and when such “confusion” as some experts call it happen where does a boy who is same sex attracted go to for advice and guidance how to process those feelings? I too experiences a similar attraction to a male teacher back then while in high school and was infatuated with his voice and physique as he was the physical education instructor but had to suppress my feelings as there were no avenues to share same and process them except for the occasional masturbation session to relief myself of said feelings.

I can fully appreciate and understand some of this and am glad that the guardian has allowed me to share the core essence of the report made to me via telephone some time ago. The issue of students in sexual encounters with other students and adults is high on the public’s mind as of late due to the plethora of sex tapes (hetero) involving students on social media and concerns raised by the parenting commission and the Ministry of Education both of whom alongside the Principal Association do not want to address homosexuality and early initiation as they ought to be dealt with and the sanitization of the HFLE, Home and Family Life Manual directs us to that realization in recent times.

The “torture” as it were in the mind of the student continued for months as each time he saw the teacher he would go “crazy” as it were and to top that his parents were not so supportive of homosexuality at all so hiding was the option to avoid any issues; there were hardly any other boy crushes that were as intense as the teacher’s pull and he (the teen) had explored non penetrative sexual contact with other boys but the admiration was intense, instances of leaning his elbows out for example to deliberately allow his legs or crotch to touch him or inane meaningless conversation just to take up the time were some of the strategies used to hone in the adult just to prolong the presence of the man before him. 

The teen even went as far as to investigate his contact details but it got no further, the teacher in the meantime though admitting long after that he is a member of the gay community does not identify as such until the sessions with the guidance counsellors and board of the school according to the report made by the teen as gay but became aware of the boy’s advances as they became intense according to the revelation made after the outing incident at the school. The teacher has since resigned (not sure if he was forced) and is gainfully employed at a private institution.

On a rainy Friday afternoon in December 2013 the teacher made his way to a classroom where he apparently left some notes by error on a desk after a session, school had just ended where the teen was passing and saw him, seizing the opportunity to have another one of those stretched conversations just to fulfil his crush he entered the room and quizzed the teacher about this and that but it became too apparent as evidenced in the erected bulge of the teen; it was at that point that the teacher confronted the student about the site and at that same moment as the teen grabbed his own crotch in a bid to hide his member’s size another student came in the classroom; both teen and teacher froze in shock as the other third person in the room looked in surprise then came the words inadvertently out of the mouth of the teen “a him mek me wood stan up” (he caused me to get an erection) afterwards it became apparent that the student who witnessed the exchange at the wrong moment interpreted the statement as the teacher fondling the student. The frightened teen ran and never returned to school until days after thinking that by then the matter who have spread all over the school, he was right as it did carry by the student who came in the room.

His parents were summoned and the matter was discussed off campus fortunately with the Vice Principal and counsellor; the latter offered prayer for change and what looked like reparative therapy suggestions for the student. Meanwhile at home things became dicey as his father has since not spoken much to him and other relatives have become distant. Thankfully an aunt has decided to take him in and address the relocation exercise where it was successful in another parish and new school. The school had not expelled him and that should be noted as we have seen before cases that may be similar where he student is relieved of their space at the school in a supposed bid to “purge” the environment of the lifestyle. I can remember a case some years ago at Dunoon Technical which was carried in a local newspaper where a father incited other students to beat his own son as his homosexual orientation was made public.

There are hardly any avenues as I hinted above for young gay teens (or other orientations and genders for that matter) to unload and process their feelings and desires and many fall through the cracks of mostly schools owned and run by Churches who are indifferent towards such matters.

Hope this teen can live it down and recover quickly and move on. Others are not so lucky and end up on the streets or worse. 

also see: 
Safety month in schools, bullying, oral sex and such ........

Peace and tolerance

H