Some persons only learn the lesson when it is too late.
The back and forth between the two lasted for some time with even warnings from others looking on the situation and the victim was told to either avoid the thug or tread very very carefully but the advice was not taken (typical of some of us) and promises were made to provide material things and money including a high end phone that was bought for the ‘thug’ who is said to hail from a certain depressed community in Kingston and such hyper-masculine types are most protective of their machismo, secrecy and have expectations when promises are made with awful reactions as previous matters have taught when such promises are not met.
The men continued their quiet and slow intimacy and it was said that after a major session their issue of the promises made prior came up where the young man failed to properly answer, he reached out to another friend as things started to get verbally violent at first as the thug made his demands upset that he was not gifted the items or cash promised. The incident took place at a friend’s house where a lyme was in progress in July, the young man was present and he had spoken to the thug over the phone who eventually found his way to the event; it was there things got out of control as the angry thug blurted the cause of his anger and that he felt justified in thrashing the victim despite patrons at the event urged him not to and threatened to call the police. The thug said they can go ahead as he would have revealed that he was tricked by the twenty year.
Several slaps, shoves and kicks later and a club with an empty drink bottle later with a slight cut bleeding the upset man made verbal threats if he did not receive the contents of the promises made by the victim. Sadly this is a regular, yes I said regular occurrence with some of our brothers as persons turn goo-goo ga-ga when he think we have a ‘catch’ or some heaviot (hypermasculine) as a partner if for however short the liaison is. Engaging such guys come with consequences if one does not play their cards right. I for one would not have engaged that dude sexually speaking and allow him to travel to his own comfort zone without pushing him with any satisfaction in the end.
I do not believe in promising these dudes either as one usually never stop gifting them once they get their tentacles into you until it gets to a kind of chronic entitlement where he feels he must always get his demands met when he asks and quickly too leading to all kinds of problems once there is resistance. Threats to out persons sometimes creeps in as a tool to keep such victims in check or in line to deliver promises as persons fear the embarrassment and displacement that may occur with little recourse of rebuilding one’s life easily. In the same breath if one is going to engage such types lay the rules down from early or set the game board from the beginning without any hint of financial gifts or material ones in exchange for every sex act done or for conditionality for his company.
If one wants a ‘thug’ one must know how to play the game of one could be hurt or killed even if one just makes a mistake or change the parameters of the liaison.
A word to the wise is sufficient as we have numerous cases over the years to rely upon where we have lost colleagues from such fallouts from aggrieved thugs, extortionists (often starts out innocently then grows) and never satisfied parties who demand more and more.
Peace and tolerance