this letter below appeared in today's Pastor column in the Weekend Star Newspaper, I just feel sometimes these letters and answers are devised by the paper, they seem to lack some truth to them.........what you think?Dear Pastor,
I am not sure if you read and reply to letters of my sort. I seem to have a big problem with my sexuality, which makes me confused and sometimes suicidal. I am a regular reader of your column and I recognise that you are a strong supporter of persons who are searching for answers.
I am a 20-year-old male Christian with a good job. I live with my mother, stepfather and three younger siblings. I am an active member of a church with aspirations of becoming a pastor. Currently I am not in a relationship because of my small genitals.
sexual contacts
My main problem is that I have very strong feelings for the same sex. As a child I was involved in sexual contacts with male friends, but over the years, we became less and less active. But one particular friend and I continued into our teenage years and now as a young man, I want to stop, but I can't.
I told that person that I am not gay so I do not want to continue. We have stopped, but every now and then when we are lonely, he still comes on to me and I cannot refuse him. We haven't been with each other for about a year now.
peer educator
I was employed by a church sister at her Internet café for a couple of months. During these months I met a male friend via a debate competition (let's call him Mike). He would email me debate topics, venues and dates. Mike is a community peer educator so I thought he could give me some words of advice about my sexuality.
Well, it turned out to be more than advice. I told him about my sexual feelings to gays. He then told me he was gay. I immediately fell in love with him. My inner being felt like I was waiting for this a long time.
church sister found out
Now here I am getting involved with another person while telling the other one I am not gay. My church sister found out that I am gay. I ended up leaving her job and getting another. Being with Mike who is in a relationship, I was now going out and meeting other guys and getting myself more and more involved with this gay thing. Mike and I never got to the point where we had sex.
Pastor, last month I saw myself going into a serious relationship with someone from my community (let's call him John). We have involved ourselves sexually, but not to the point where he knows I have a small penis and he is just two years younger than I am. I am expecting us to go a long way.
going to be a pastor
Being that I am a Christian and hoping to become a pastor I do not know what to do. The drive for the same sex is much greater than the opposite. Deep down I want to become the pastor because that is my calling and I am telling the people in my church that I am going to be a pastor. But in my heart I am not. I do not want to be the pastor saying I am living for God and on the other hand I am gay and I do not want to bring down any disgrace on the church. I am next to the current pastor and anything concerning the church he would call on me if he is not available. I hope that what I have written, you will understand and you can give me some good advice as to what to do.
I would appreciate your help and do you have any advice on the small penis situation. Continue to do the good work you are doing and I pray God's richest blessings on you and your family.
D.W., St Mary, Jamaica
Dear D.W.,
What you have is a moral problem, not a penis problem. You should not even consider the Ministry until you have conquered the desire you have to have sexual intercourse with persons of your own gender. Although there are those who do not consider homosexuality as an abnormality, there are strong reasons to believe that it is.
your small penis
You seem to be very happy that you are associating yourself with homosexuals and the only thing that has prevented you from going all the way is your small penis. It is time for you to seek professional help.
And as far as the Ministry is concerned, don't play with God. Put that out of your mind, until you receive spiritual deliverance. I believe that God can deliver you if you are willing to humble yourself before Him. Call a Christian psychologist and make an appointment to see him/her. Nothing is impossible with God.
Pastor
1 comments:
I have your suspicion as well. Letters to Aaron Dumas are too well constructed to have the right mix of sensational content.
I don't like his advice either. He needs to make it clear that while psychologists can condition people to not act on their homosexual desires, there is no "remedy" for homosexuality.
Homosexuality as an abnormality. Paasta, no mek mi an yu av notn. There is nothing abnormal about me. Humans have a proclivity to describe any variance of what is usual as an abnormality. It's funny how language serves to perpetuate prejudice. If homosexuality had originally been labelled a variance of human sexuality, then homophobic hatred would perhaps not be as vitriolic.
If this guy is even real, he doesn't sound like someone who is grappling with his sexuality at all. I know of gay Christians who are trying to subdue their sexual inclinations. They tend to abstain from sex with other men...not sleep around in the hope of turning straight for god.
I swear this letter is a sham.
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